How to stop things from bothering you

Identify the situation.
The easiest way to solve a problem is to identify what the problem is. Break the problem down into an easily manageable sentence that will let you clearly define what you’re experiencing.
Identify what you’re feeling and why.

You can’t effectively defuse an emotion if you don’t understand what you’re feeling. Are you angry, sad, disappointed, and frustrated? What feelings are at the root of the thing that is bothering you? Understanding what you feel allows you to employ strategies that work for you to deal with those feelings
Look for the facts of the situation.

Emotions often cloud our ability to see the truth. It’s difficult to see our role in a situation when we are too angry or frustrated to examine the situation. The great thing about facts is that they don’t require you to have any feelings about them. They simply are or are not, which makes them an ideal anchor to keep yourself grounded when trying to sort through your problem.

Ask yourself, “What is my responsibility for the situation?”
It’s necessary to consider what role you might have played in whatever the situation was. Did you do anything to cause it? Did you throw fuel on the fire and make it worse? What responsibility is yours for what happened? This is a valuable step for defusing interpersonal conflicts because the actions of other people are often driven by what’s going on in their minds.

Feel what you need to feel and then let it go.
Things are going to bother you from time to time. There is no avoiding it. It is reasonable and healthy to experience negative emotions when bad or unexpected things happen in your life. Negative emotions are what spur us on to take better actions and improve our situation. If you don’t like the way a situation makes you feel, that is your brain telling you that you need to do something to change your circumstances.

Take action.
Negative emotions serve a valuable function in that they are telling you to take action. Your brain is telling you, “I don’t like this. Do something about it.” And though we cannot control the things that happen to us in our life, we can always control how we respond.

Be kind to yourself
Even the best-laid plans can be blown apart by completely unexpected circumstances. It’s always a possibility that we must accept as we try to preserve our peace and happiness in life. Don’t be surprised if it takes a while to make this style of thinking into a habit. It’s a challenging skill to develop.

The good news is that it gets easier the more you do it. The more you do it, the fewer things will bother you overall. You just have to keep applying yourself and working at it until it becomes natural for you.

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