My friend has taken over my girl friend

Dear Obaa Yaa,

Sometime ago, I met a pretty girl, but I was too shy to approach her, so I asked a friend to talk to her on my behalf.

My friend came back and told me that after talking to the girl, he learned that she was no good so I should forget about her.

My friend, who is a born again, is always in the girl’s company. When I tackled him about it the first time, he told me that he was trying to get her to change.

They are almost inseparable now and my friend has been avoiding me. I want to confront him in the presence of the girl and embarrass him.

Will I be justified in my action?

Opoku Oware, Accra.

Dear Opoku Oware,

I WOULD not resort to any confrontations if I were you; it will only make you more miserable.

Admittedly, your friend did not behave well because in a way, he has betrayed you.

But don’t forget that he was under no obligation to chat up the girl for you, so don’t blame him.

The next time you see a girl that you fancy, just teem up confidence and boldness and walk up to her.

Dad says he won’t pay my fees

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am facing a big problem which is threatening my education and life as well.

I am in my last year in secondary school but my father is threatening to stop paying my school fees for reasons I cannot disclose.

I am appealing through you to any person or organisation to come to my rescue to help me continue with my education.

I am ready for any job, be it a driver or houseboy. I am a worried person. Please help.

Benson, Accra.

Dear Benson,

You are ready to become a houseboy or a driver in someone else’s house and must be ready to do anything for your father to change his mind.

I suggest you go down on your knees and own up for what you have done and ask for his forgiveness.

Bear in mind that times are hard, not only in this country. Most people do not even get regular meals, so if apart from food and clothes, you are lucky to be receiving secondary education, then you have to be grateful to your parents and concentrate on your studies.

If you are still keen on continuing with your education, then go and tell the whole story to an elderly person and ask him to accompany you to your father and apologise.

Obaa Yaa

Pastors take too much money from members

Dear Obaa Yaa,

A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.

Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?

Etornam,

Volta Region.

Dear Etornam,

It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.

Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.

Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.

But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.