My marriage is coming to an end

Dear Obaa Yaa,

MY name is Philip and I’m 45 years old while my wife is 40 years. We have been married for 14 years but been together for 19 years. We have a girl, she is in High School now and doing pretty well.

My company had a conference at a hotel in Kumasi and four of us from my department were se­lected to represent the company. During lunch, I decided to take a stroll and enjoy the scenery around the hotel since it’s my first time there.

As I strolled around, I was shocked to see my wife step out of a vehicle with a younger man. They started walking towards the reception of the hotel. The man placed his arms around her waist and they were enjoying each other’s company.

I froze and felt a huge cloud of pain weighing over my head. I wanted to shout and approach them but when I opened my mouth, no words came out and my feet was too heavy to drag.

I am in my mother’s house now, I do not know how I will face her if I eventually go home. I was told my mom needs help with few things at the house so I will lend a helping hand and also sleep over. I haven’t told anyone but my mom suspects that some­thing is wrong.

I am so devastated right now, my marriage and home seems to be coming to an end. Please what should I do?

Philip, Kumasi.

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Dear Philip,

I understand how you feel; I plead with you to continue to be patient with your wife.

Please try and go home to have a word with her concerning what you witnessed.

Give her the benefit of doubt to explain what she was exactly doing there at that time with the man.

I am pleading with you to give her a second chance but most importantly, kindly inform her parents about it to talk to her.

You can seek the help of a professional counselor and go for therapies with her.

However, if you are not com­fortable staying with her, please part ways with her peacefully. You can co-parent your daughter.