Text message exposes my boyfriend

Dear Obaa Yaa,

My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.

Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.

I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.

He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.

My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.

I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.

Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.

I read the message when he was having his bath.

Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.

How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?

Abrefi, Tesano.

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Dear Abrefi,

I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.

I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.

He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.

This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.

In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.

I am in love with a married man

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a 27- year- old lady who has fallen in love with a married man. I met this man on a business trip in koforidua of the Eastern Region.

I fell for him at first sight, though I knew he was married because he had a ring on his finger.

He took my number and started calling to check up on me. He is super nice, caring, soft spoken and gentle.

I began to develop feelings for him because he had all the qualities I needed in a man. He proposed to me and I accepted it.

Even though I knew he was married, it didn’t stop me from dating him. We started dating and he has been very supportive and loving.

I am madly in love with him that I wish he wasn’t married, yet I do not also want to break his home. I am doing everything possible to help him hide this affair from his wife.

I am not happy dating a married man but I love him. Please what should I do?

Worried lady, Alajo.

Dear worried lady,

I an happy you said you didn’t want to break someone’s home in the first place. It is rather unfortunate you have fallen in love with a married man.

You are a very beautiful young lady and everyman will be willing to settle down with a young lady.

Try as much as possible to avoid his calls and stay away from him.

Stay away from his lane and be careful. Mind you, you are a woman and there is Karma.

My wife feeds me with her sugar daddy’s money

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am married to a beautiful young lady who is really very industrious. I lost my job recently and this woman has been taking care of me.

However, my friends keep telling me that she has a sugar daddy who gives her money.

I am inclined to believe this because the kind of money she brings home is far more than her pay as a typist.

The taught of this is even killing me softly. I don’t want to investigate this allegation because I am afraid of what I may see.

I love her so much. What should I do?

Nene,Odumase.

Dear Nene

You must act like a man. A man who loves his wife cannot allow another man to have her no matter their circumstance. The fact that you have lost your job doesn’t mean you should sell your dignity and integrity.

Be bold and confront your wife about the stories you are hearing about this sugar daddy stuff. You better stop her and the money she has been bringing home for your upkeep, or else she might also be bringing it for your obituary.

Investigate the stories and take steps to stop her from this adulterous behaviour on her part.

Make sure you get a job and be the man you are supposed to be.