Who is telling the truth?

Dear Obaa Yaa,

We have been in a relationship for some years now and planning to get married pretty soon.

However, certain developments are quite disturbing and could end our relationship on a bad note.

My girlfriend had complained to me that my best friend had attempted to have an affair with her. But my friend also informed me that my girl friend has a secret lover who has been meeting her occasionally.

I am disturbed about these pieces of information and do not know the appropriate step to take and who to believe.

I enquired from my girl friend to find out the veracity of the information l had received about her but she has ever since denied indulging in an extra relationship.

Since such issues have the potential to ruin our relationship, what should l do?  

Daniel, Dodowa.

Dear Daniel,

I can envisage the situation you find yourself and how confused you may  be. This is a serious issue which must be handled with tact and diplomacy.  

You have to undertake thorough investigation into the conduct of the two individuals to find out the truth surrounding their claims and who is playing the mischief in this instance.

If your friend’s assertion is true, then it means he has identified your lady as someone who has the tendency to give in easily, hence his decision to take advantage of her.

Marriage should be based on trust and mutual respect for each other since it is a life-long process. That is why you have to study each other very well before you finally tie the knot to start this journey.