Obaa Yaa
Enough is enough
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been in a relationship with a young man for more than two years and things were initially going on well with us.
With time, our relationship started going bad and we seemed to disagree with each other on every little issue which should have ended normally without an objection from either of us.
Having observed things critically over the period, l have decided to break up the relationship with him to enable me to concentrate on my studies. I consider this decision very important this time.
Though it will be difficult to disclose my intention to him, l think enough is enough and l am eager to stick to my plans despite the consequences.
Now that l have decided to break up the relationship with him, new guys are also proposing to me.
Obaa Yaa, please l need your advice.
Delight, Takoradi.
Dear Delight,
I am delighted to read that you have attached great importance to your studies and that has informed your decision to sever links with this gentleman. The objective of enrolling in the university is to achieve an aim, so pursue this goal to the end.
Compatibility is the catchphrase in every relationship, and since this is missing, it is appropriate to do what is essential by severing relations with this guy. Can you imagine how your parents will feel when they get wind of your relationship with this guy?
There is one thing making a decision and another ensuring that the decision is carried out.
Disregard the numerous calls from other young men and remain resolute in your decision to stop the relationship which has given you the signal that it has no future.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
