Obaa Yaa
This boy deceives my friend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
L have a close friend who is like a biological sister to me and with whom l share my dreams about life. She is in a three-year relationship with a boy of the same age, who to me is not dependable because he abuses her always.
Despite the behaviour of this young man, my friend trusts him and tries to paint a nice picture to others that their relationship is well and cannot be allowed to fall on rocks.
Quite recently, they fought and he attempted to strangle her to death, but he was unsuccessful, after which she called me at dawn.
The boy is not trustworthy because he keeps telling friends that he would not marry my friend, but comes around with sugar-coated words that he will do all within his power to marry her.
l must be frank that l cannot stand the double standard game he is playing with my friend.
While observers see the relationship as lacking credibility and, therefore, cannot last, she considers it as true love and has given her whole heart to him.
Can l impress upon her to end the relationship?
Belinda-Accra.
Dear Belinda,
You must be frank and tell your friend the truth about how you view their relationship.
Attempting to strangle her for no apparent reason should not be taken lightly. This gentleman can end her life if she fails to take serious view of current happenings in the relationship.
Judging from the utterances of the gentleman and what had transpired between them so far, it would be ideal if your friend ends the relationship in order to stay alive.
It is unfortunate she does not perceive what others see about their relationship.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
