Obaa Yaa
Who is telling the truth?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in a relationship for some years now and planning to get married pretty soon.
However, certain developments are quite disturbing and could end our relationship on a bad note.
My girlfriend had complained to me that my best friend had attempted to have an affair with her. But my friend also informed me that my girl friend has a secret lover who has been meeting her occasionally.
I am disturbed about these pieces of information and do not know the appropriate step to take and who to believe.
I enquired from my girl friend to find out the veracity of the information l had received about her but she has ever since denied indulging in an extra relationship.
Since such issues have the potential to ruin our relationship, what should l do?
Daniel, Dodowa.
Dear Daniel,
I can envisage the situation you find yourself and how confused you may be. This is a serious issue which must be handled with tact and diplomacy.
You have to undertake thorough investigation into the conduct of the two individuals to find out the truth surrounding their claims and who is playing the mischief in this instance.
If your friend’s assertion is true, then it means he has identified your lady as someone who has the tendency to give in easily, hence his decision to take advantage of her.
Marriage should be based on trust and mutual respect for each other since it is a life-long process. That is why you have to study each other very well before you finally tie the knot to start this journey.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
