Obaa Yaa
Are her concerns valid?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A friend opened up to me recently that her husband gave her GH¢1,000.00 for her upkeep and that of her three daughters every month. Apart from this amount, she said, she did not receive any other support from her husband.
According to her, “the funds are not enough and it does not sustain her and the children throughout the month”. And that her husband did not seem to understand any time she asked for more money to cater for the basic needs at home.
I have asked her to be patient and manage the ‘little’ funds available to her. Are her concerns valid or she is being unappreciative of her husband’s effort?
Mavis Obuobisa,
Kwashieman.
Dear Mavis,
An amount of GH¢1,000 every month is quite appreciable. There are ladies who receive less than this amount every month yet they are able to survive and take care of their entire family.
Please ask your friend to stop complaining about what she is being offered. If she really wants more money for herself, then she might as well start a petty business so she can make some extra income in addition to what her husband offers.
Obaa Yaa
She says the girl is not my child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Amos, I am not married but have one child who I cater for. Just recently when I sent my child weekly money for her upkeep, her mother asked me not to bother.
She said that the child was not mine and that she was prepared to pay for everything I have spent on them.
Obaa Yaa, life around me now is hell. I can’t come to terms with what she is telling me after taking care of my child for six years.
Obaa Yaa, what can make a woman behave like this? What should do?
Amos,
Kwahu.
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Dear Amos,
I am really sorry for you. However, it is good that this woman is saying something you have not investigated and know for certainty if the child is yours or not. That will keep your mind at rest.
Take a lawyer and send the matter to court. The court will most certainly order a paternity test where you can know your stand as to the parentage of this girl.
If she is yours, you can take legal steps to claim her from the dishonest mother. If it is proved that she is not your child, then you can make your lawyer prepare a bill for the woman to reimburse you for all you have spent on the child.
Obaa Yaa
I am barren, my husband has impregnated girl, 18
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 40 years old married for 10 years. I have been to so many hospitals in the country, herbalists and even to spiritualists for a help in child bearing, but to no avail.
My problem now is that, I have just been hinted that my husband has impregnated an 18- year old girl.
He does everything for her. Even though he has not neglected me, I am very hurt, and what can I do?
Akua,
Koforidua.
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Dear Akua,
IT is always good for everybody to investigate what he or she hears before whole-heartedly accepting it as a gospel truth.
Most rumours are peddled about people but they turn out to be false.
Anyhow, let your husband know, what you have heard and let him react to it. You may found out that it is a different story altogether.
However, if it turns out to be true, then it means your husband has not lived up to his marriage vows, and depending on what your religious principles and emotions are, you might advise yourself.
Another option is to stick to your husband and continue seeking a child of your own.
Don’t get stressed out though, take it cool and seek diligently for yours. One day, you will have the last laugh.
