Obaa Yaa
Are her concerns valid?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A friend opened up to me recently that her husband gave her GH¢1,000.00 for her upkeep and that of her three daughters every month. Apart from this amount, she said, she did not receive any other support from her husband.
According to her, “the funds are not enough and it does not sustain her and the children throughout the month”. And that her husband did not seem to understand any time she asked for more money to cater for the basic needs at home.
I have asked her to be patient and manage the ‘little’ funds available to her. Are her concerns valid or she is being unappreciative of her husband’s effort?
Mavis Obuobisa,
Kwashieman.
Dear Mavis,
An amount of GH¢1,000 every month is quite appreciable. There are ladies who receive less than this amount every month yet they are able to survive and take care of their entire family.
Please ask your friend to stop complaining about what she is being offered. If she really wants more money for herself, then she might as well start a petty business so she can make some extra income in addition to what her husband offers.
Obaa Yaa
They get on my nerves
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Both my wife and I are middle school leavers, but because her brothers are overseas, she goes abroad regularly. Because of that she has joined a certain class of people who believe that my wife is better educated than I am and therefore, look down on me.
The way she sometimes communicates with me is so annoying and makes me feel sad.
I overheard one of them asking my wife how she could marry an illiterate like me, and surprisingly she laughed at it as if it was a huge joke. When I confronted my wife afterwards, she denied everything.
I don’t want to divorce my wife, but her friends get on my nerves.
Please advise me.
Kwaku Teye, Konogo
Dear Kwaku Teye,
The current state of your wife is making her feel she is better than you. I can imagine how you feel. It is not fair for your wife to encourage her friends to make derogatory remarks about you.
However, do not make an issue out of it, especially as your wife has denied it.
I will advise you to talk to your wife to stay away from her friends if she really needs her marriage.
I will also plead with you to further your education if you have the means and resources.
Obaa Yaa
My friend has taken over my girl friend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Sometime ago, I met a pretty girl, but I was too shy to approach her, so I asked a friend to talk to her on my behalf.
My friend came back and told me that after talking to the girl, he learned that she was no good so I should forget about her.
My friend, who is a born again, is always in the girl’s company. When I tackled him about it the first time, he told me that he was trying to get her to change.
They are almost inseparable now and my friend has been avoiding me. I want to confront him in the presence of the girl and embarrass him.
Will I be justified in my action?
Opoku Oware, Accra.
Dear Opoku Oware,
I WOULD not resort to any confrontations if I were you; it will only make you more miserable.
Admittedly, your friend did not behave well because in a way, he has betrayed you.
But don’t forget that he was under no obligation to chat up the girl for you, so don’t blame him.
The next time you see a girl that you fancy, just teem up confidence and boldness and walk up to her.
