Obaa Yaa
Are her concerns valid?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A friend opened up to me recently that her husband gave her GH¢1,000.00 for her upkeep and that of her three daughters every month. Apart from this amount, she said, she did not receive any other support from her husband.
According to her, “the funds are not enough and it does not sustain her and the children throughout the month”. And that her husband did not seem to understand any time she asked for more money to cater for the basic needs at home.
I have asked her to be patient and manage the ‘little’ funds available to her. Are her concerns valid or she is being unappreciative of her husband’s effort?
Mavis Obuobisa,
Kwashieman.
Dear Mavis,
An amount of GH¢1,000 every month is quite appreciable. There are ladies who receive less than this amount every month yet they are able to survive and take care of their entire family.
Please ask your friend to stop complaining about what she is being offered. If she really wants more money for herself, then she might as well start a petty business so she can make some extra income in addition to what her husband offers.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
