Obaa Yaa
He has disappeared
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I fell in love with this gentleman who was very vibrant in his church and the community. He was the lead singer in the church and was able to win many souls for the church through his inspirational singing.
Though we promised to abstain from sex, l had the shock of my life when both of us could not resist the temptation to stay away from sex and l became pregnant.
Surprisingly, ever since l informed him that l was pregnant, he stopped calling my telephone and the greatest shock of my life is that this gentleman has left his house for an unknown destination.
Checks in his house have revealed that the man he had informed me as his elder brother is a mere benefactor and allowed my boyfriend to stay with him since he was stranded.
What shall l do with the pregnancy since my parents are not aware and l am embarrassed?
Ama, Accra.
Dear Ama,
The condition in which you find yourself will definitely make you to be disturbed. You have made a serious mistake in falling in love with somebody who cannot be trusted and whose background you do not know.
The only option left for you at the moment is to inform your parents that you are pregnant. It will be quite embarrassing to tell them that you cannot find your secret lover who had made you pregnant.
Though difficult, your parents will help you with a solution to the problem you find yourself in currently.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
