Obaa Yaa
He keeps harassing me
I am a 26-year-old girl in a tertiary institution with the optimism to excel in my academic programme.
Unfortunately, a married man who is a friend to a cousin of mine has been harassing me every day. Though this man is married with three children, he has been showering expensive gifts on me in a bid to entice me to go out with him.
Though he had offered to sponsor me to read a professional course, l was not interested and l had made myself clear to him, yet he would not listen to me.I have the conviction that accepting such offers could lead to unacceptable demands from him.
Since this man is married, l am confused and would not like to fall in love with a married man to ruin my future eventually.
Kindly help me out of this problem before l commit myself.
Linda, Takoradi.
Dear Linda,
The inference that you would not like to fall in love with a married man speaks volumes and you must stick to that.
Your decision not to accept gifts from this man because of the consequences is equally good and l wished all young girls would be fast to read through the evil plans of some men.
The possibility of using your cousin to achieve his aim is also great, for that matter, you must be careful not to fall a victim to his scheming.
Can you imagine the embarrassment you will give yourself if this man’s wife gets to know about a romance between you and her husband?
Since your desire is to do all within your power to excel academically, you must endeavour to study hard and refrain from impediments which are likely to come your way.
I wish you well.
Obaa Yaa
Can malt make me tall?
Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?
I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.
They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.
Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?
Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.
Oware
Accra.
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Dear Oware,
People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.
You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.
But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.
There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.
Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.
Obaa Yaa
I want a divorce
Dear Obaa Yaa,
After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.
I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.
My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.
Owusu,
Tafo.
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Dear Owusu
Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.
Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.
Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.
If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.
