Obaa Yaa
I still love my ex-boyfriend
Dear ObaaYaa,
I am married to a businessman who travels the length and breadth of the country, meeting business partners and always making efforts to increase his stock of goods.
His insatiable desire to become one of the richest businessmen in the country has led him to make more enemies.
He has made money his best friend and excluded everything and has even refused to take interest in me, his wife.
Though l have made my concern known to him, l am not happy because he seems not to be bothered about it and is still going about his business.
How I wished he was around me always, especially when l need him more to fill the vacuum in my life but it is not so.
Unfortunately, a friend proposed a gentleman to me who would keep me company and this has ended in a deep love between us and i find it difficult to stop this.
What should l l do to stop this relationship?
Aku, Kumasi
Dear MaameAkua,
Though the Bible enjoins one to work hard in order to earn a living, one is supposed to do that in moderation by taking into consideration other factors.
Your man cannot give any excuse for the total neglect of his family and solely depend on his business to the detriment of your marriage. He should remember that he has no authority over his body likewise you.
You should once again attempt talking to your husband and let him understand the harm that he is causing to you.
There is the possibility that he has a secret lover or lovers who might have been comforting his bed on his numerous travels and he does not see the essence of satisfying you at home.
Alternatively, it could be that your husband is deeply engrossed in his business and has, therefore, relegated other interests to the background.
As a wife, you should stop the relationship with your new-found lover who has taken over the place of your husband.
Though your husband is not playing his marital role well, this should not give you the privilege to take another man so long as you remain married to him.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
