Obaa Yaa
I’m fed up with this relationship
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 22 years old and deeply in love with my boyfriend who is 25 years old. Secondly, my brother suspected that my lover had moved with many ladies but l did not believe this initially.
Though he is a very loving and caring person with whom l would like to spend the rest of my life with, there were moments l had entertained fears my future plans with this gentleman could fizzle out due to his behaviour.
A few months ago, some friends of mine saw him travelling out of Accra with a different lady. Though he had informed me that he would travel, he fell short to disclose to me details about the trip.
Upon investigations, l discovered that he had travelled with the lady. Though he had denied when l first confronted him on the issue, he later agreed and apologised to me, and l have forgiven him.
After a year, he was seen in an obscure area with another girl and he is back apologising. Should l accept his apology for the second time?
Nancy, Accra.
Dear Nancy,
The repeated actions of your boyfriend shows the sort of person he is and the troubles he will give you as a husband in the future.
His clandestine moves are questionable and should he continue with this kind of behaviour and coming back to apologise, then your heart will probably be troubled if you marry him.
The reason that you are fed up with the relationship should guide you in making up your mind that this marriage will definitely not end well.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
