Obaa Yaa
Love is only a small part of it
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old Senior High School graduate living with my parents.
About two weeks ago, I met a young lady who I have fallen so much in love with.
Even though I have qualified to enter a tertiary institution, I want to marry this lady before someone grabs her.
Obaa Yaa, can I go ahead and marry her before continuing my education since education is no race?
David, Ho.
Dear David,
Please take a cue from the saying that ‘first things first’. It is not advisable to stop school just because you want to get married to this lady. Getting married can’t be a priority over education.
You can, however, still be in school and engage her if you are so desperate about clinching her from others.
Whatever it is, remember that your education is more important because that is how you can attain a lucrative career to enable you look after a wife.
Getting married is more than merely falling in love. It inevitably entails putting food on the table, bringing up children, paying school fees, electricity and water bills.
Eventually, you will realise that love is only a small part of the entire enterprise.
Obaa Yaa
He squats like a girl to urinate
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a single parent trying to raise my three children – two girls and a boy aged six, five and two.
I am not worried about money to take care for them because I am gainfully employed. The problem is that my little boy has not been urinating in the manner males do.
He has been squatting like how females do. I don’t know how to teach him since he does not allow me.
How do I handle such a situation?
Sandra, Sunyani.
Dear Freda,
Your boy is simply imitating his sisters and he is used to squatting while urinating.
This is not an issue you should be worried about. Continue to educate him that boys don’t squat; rather they stand and urinate.
When he grows up and sees his peers standing up to urinate, he’d learn to do the same.
Don’t get worried. Little kids change over time.
Obaa Yaa
Is he cheating on me?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been together for six years now. Recently when he came from town I asked him for money to buy something.
He directed me to bring the trousers but he later changed his mind and reached for the trousers himself.
Interestingly, I got the trousers first and when I removed his wallet, it came out together with a condom.
I asked him what he was doing with the condom because we don’t use it at home.
He told me to stop worrying him about it and never answered the question.
Esi Atta,
Krobo.
Dear Esi,
I AM afraid your husband might be cheating on you, but be thankful that he always has a condom in hand.
Try and discuss your fears with him and give him more attention.
Maybe he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and wants to go a bit extra-marital.
I hope you would not be too pissed off though. Take it cool, discuss the problem, and I believe that once he has been exposed, he would take steps to change.
But as I stated earlier, be thankful that he is a fan of condoms.
