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Obvious signs that she likes you more than a friend (II)
Constant eye contact
Eye contact is another sign. If she stares at you or glancing at you, it is a sign that you are in good company. The eyes are always truthful. You will be more than just a friend to a girl. When you look at other girls, you can see a unique glow in their eyes that is not available to others. Her eyes will be deep and meaningful. These gestures and signs are a sign that the girl is secretly interested in you, more than a friend.
You are not referred to “as a friend”
Sometimes the way someone talks about another person can reflect how they feel about them. A girl talking about a male friend but not calling him a friend is an indication that he is more than just a friend. Is your female friend referring to you as a “close friend”, or “special friend?” This is a sign that your female friend wants to be more than just a friend.
You will be told that she is single
If your female friend mentions casually that she is not in a relationship with anyone, this could indicate that she is interested in you. This is her way to tell you she wants to be in a relationship with you, but not to date other men. She wants to let you know that she is open to a relationship, and may want you to ask her out.
Secretly, she follows you because she wants to be more than just a friend
People can do crazy things for someone they love. This includes secretly following them around. You could simply go to their usual places. Sometimes, it can even escalate to stalking. Are you a frequent shopper for your female friend? This could indicate that your female friend is secretly looking to be more than just a friend.
Expressing what they feel through body language
Everything is communicated through body language. Eye contact is a common way to express feelings without speaking a word. You will notice changes in a girl’s body language if she is with someone she knows more than her friend. You can see if she is secretly interested in you by her body language. Your friend’s body language could indicate if she wants to be in a relationship with you.
One of the most obvious signs is envy.
This classic is a must-have for any list. Is a girl trying to make you jealous? Do you think she is trying to make you jealous by hanging out with other men? If she wants you to notice her, a girl may do this. This trick is used to see if you have romantic feelings for her. You can tell if she does this that you are more than just a friend.
You are more than just a friend to her when she needs you.
It is a clear sign that she loves you more than a friend by always wanting to be with you. She looks for you whenever she’s sad, upset, unhappy, or troubled. You are her confidant. She relies on you to support her, motivate and make her smile when she’s feeling down. It’s not just a sign that she loves you more than a friend. This also indicates that she trusts in you.
She wants to be more than just a friend by talking a lot about her.
You can observe a friend find out if they like you more than you. You’ll be able to see a few clues in her actions. You can see how she speaks about you to others. She will talk about you if you are always on her mind. She will always have something positive to say about your character. Sometimes her friends might even become annoyed by the constant positive comments she makes about you. What does it mean that she cannot get rid of you? This can only be a sign that you are more to her than a friend.
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The role of employment status, wealth, geographical location in divorce
Several research findings have identified factors likely to account for divorce. These factors include (but are not limited to):
1. Employment Status and Income Levels of Individuals
Several research on the employment status of married individuals have identified how it influences marital stability. If the husband is employed, the likelihood of the marriage ending in divorce is low.
The is because, as the head, he would be in a better position to provide for the family’s needs, strengthening the family and increasing their standard of living (Lee, unpublished).
On the contrary, women who are employed are at risk of having a higher divorce rate, particularly when they find themselves in unhappy marriages.
This is because they can afford to be independent and cater for their children (Becker, Landes & Michael, 1977; Oppenheimer, 1997; Sayer & Bianchi, 2000). Moore’s (1994) argument also supports the fact that women’s divorce risks increase as they find themselves in highly time-demanding occupations outside the home. This is because they might be unable to devote ample time to their spouses and children.
Despite these findings, I know of a good number of women who are doing their best to maintain some balance between their married life and their work. I highly commend such women for their extra efforts on behalf of their families.
2. Wealth
Research shows that the individuals’ wealth status could either increase or decrease the probability of divorce. Some scholars (Kurderk, 1993 and Rootalu, 2010) indicated that when individuals are more affluent and wealthy, marriage stability is compromised because couples could easily afford the costs involved in the divorce process.
Others also suggest that individuals who are not wealthy (especially women) are at lower risk of divorce than more prosperous women (Ambert, 2002).
3. Geographical Location or Type of Residential Place
Geographic location and its characteristics could impact your marriage’s stability. Several studies on the location of residence have shown that married couples who live in urban communities are more likely to experience divorce than their rural counterparts (Adegoke, 2010; Adedokun, 1998).
According to Takyi (2001) and Moore (1994), urbanisation undermines African marriages.
Characteristics dominant in urban communities, such as the preference for conjugal union over the extended family and the increasing number of women in restrictive and time-consuming employment setups, have been argued to weaken the foundation of families and marriages.
This is because the conjugal family type does not allow for the involvement of other extended family members except for the immediate family (nuclear family). The immediate family is mainly made up of the married couple and their children; hence, there is less opportunity for the involvement of other members of the other family.
Indeed, it matters a lot how much your in-laws are involved in your marriage (in a healthy way, without much interference).
Modernisation in Africa is destroying the benefits that could have been derived from couples’ healthy relationships with the extended family.
Oppong (1992) supported this argument that African modernisation has led to the type of urbanisation, encouraging wide separation from extended families. Unfortunately, urbanisation supports an individualistic living arrangement (devoid of considerations for other families).
It is not surprising that a good number of researchers confirm that urban divorce rates exceed rural areas’ rates.
To be continued …
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When the tides change (Pt. 2)
Psst! Psst! Lean in closer… closer! Now listen, silence is golden, or so they say.
But when the Tale Bearer arrives with news from yonder, that golden silence suddenly turns into a shiny distraction you cannot ignore. So here I am, bearing tales from the gods, hot, fresh and ready for your ears!
Have you heard? Wonder Boy’s new status has him soaking wet like a sponge at a waterpark. And, oh boy, is he loving it! Ehem! Now, he is serenading us with a tune that has gotten us laughing and jeering mockingly ‘Johnny Just Come’, Johnny just come. Hehehe!
Who knew the rulers of the mighty kingdom of Umofia are living it up like royalty, while the rest of us are out here playing catch-up with life? Ah, life, the greatest comedian, always leaving us laughing, but with tears in our eyes.
Come to think of it, Umofians, the gods are clearly watching over us and this is their way of saying ‘wake up, Umofians! ‘He who does not see the clouds cannot predict the rain’. Well the clouds are gathering, pay ye heed.
Now, tell me, if our rulers have managed to build themselves a palace in the sky, should we, the children of Umofia, not ask for our fair share of the clouds? Should we not demand our own seat among the stars? Who knows, perhaps soon we shall all be sipping palm wine under the shade, enjoying the breeze together as equals.
Honourable Wonder Boy, if you think you are too small to make a difference, try spending the night with a mosquito. We the Umofians gave you a seat at the table of the rulers to speak on our behalf because we believe in you.
A word to the wise is enough, now show us you are not just another ‘Johnny Just Come, but the one who can stir the pot and serve justice hot! This is your moment, do not let it pass you by!
Tell your people that Umofians gave them the power, they should remember; power is like salt—use it too much, and it will spoil the whole food. Tell them oo, the people can snatch the power back quicker than a hare can outrun a tortoise.
Ah well! My elders always say, “Home affairs are best kept behind closed doors, not shouted from the public square.” So, I shall take my leave now before I turn into the village crier.
Until next time, keep your ears open.
With Eyram, the Tale bearer.
