Obaa Yaa
She has refused to introduce me to her parents
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am very worried as my fiancé of four years has refused to intro duce me to his family.
I have tried so many times to go and see his parents but he says I should hold on.
He is insisting that we are not going to see them until we are ready for marriage.
I don’t understand this idea of his because I feel it would be better to resolve whatever issues or challenges that may arise now instead of waiting for marriage.
I am having second thoughts about this relationship but I seri ously cannot afford to let go of four years on investment in time, energy and resources.
I have put so much in this relationship especially as we are nearing preparation for marriage.
I don’t know what to do next. Please I need your advice.
Lordina,
Akosombo
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Dear Lordina,
Your situation is a dicey one and needs to be handled with care. There’s is doubt that you have dedicated four good years of your time, energy, and resources and made a lot of sacrifices for this guy.
Four years is enough time for you to have met his family members, even if it is his mother.
The best thing for you to do at this point is to investigate hi s background and get to know his family members.
It may be that he is hiding something which he is not telling you.
If all your efforts prove futile, it will be better for you to part ways with him though it might not be easy for you.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
