Obaa Yaa
She wants to marry an Octogenarian
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am an octogenarian living peacefully in my house in Accra after retiring from the civil service some years back.
I live alone because all my eight children are living abroad and remit me constantly.
A last born of a female classmate of mine called Grace, 36 years, and not married has been paying me frequent visits to my house to assist in washing my dishes.
But one day, she surprised me when she asked me to marry her.
Please what would my daughter say?
Is she interested in an octogenarian like me because my daughter send me lot of dollars every month?
Obaa Yaa, please advise me.
Old Boy, Accra.
Dear Old Boy,
I WOULDN’T know the real motive of the woman asking you to marry her, but it is not uncommon.
It might be that she has a genuine liking or feelings for you because of how you relate with her or how you have been kind to her.
It can also be a result of her ambition to inherit your fortune when you eventually pass away.
Personally, I do not think it is advisable for an octogenarian to marry again. What you need at this age is a good house-keeper to see to your food, clothes, bedding and the cleanliness of your home.
Be careful because she might be a gold digger and not a genuine lover
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
