Obaa Yaa
Should l take him back?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We were classmates and later fell in love after we had completed school. Though l was pregnant at a time he was not employed and, therefore, had to depend solely on our parents, our love for each other was great.
He was forced to perform my marriage rites after which l moved to stay in his house.
We spent precious times together and made fervent prayers for God’s intervention in our marriage. Fortunately, God listened to our prayers and he secured a job which exceedingly gladdened my heart.
I thought that would permanently end our suffering but that rather marked the beginning of my worries.
Weeks after my husband had got the job, he always gave excuses of attending meetings after work, delayed in coming from work and finally chose to sleep in town.
After some months, he packed his things from the house and went to stay with another woman and has since failed to visit me.
Four years later and now that he has lost his job, he is pleading that l should accept him back. Is it my fate to cater for a jobless husband?
What step should l take?
Mary, Tema.
Dear Mary,
There is no transparency in the character of your husband because he only knows you exist only when he is in crises but shuns your company when conditions have changed.
There is no guarantee that he will stay glued to you when he gets another job.
l don’t think your husband can be trusted based on his previous behaviour.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
