Obaa Yaa
This boy deceives my friend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
L have a close friend who is like a biological sister to me and with whom l share my dreams about life. She is in a three-year relationship with a boy of the same age, who to me is not dependable because he abuses her always.
Despite the behaviour of this young man, my friend trusts him and tries to paint a nice picture to others that their relationship is well and cannot be allowed to fall on rocks.
Quite recently, they fought and he attempted to strangle her to death, but he was unsuccessful, after which she called me at dawn.
The boy is not trustworthy because he keeps telling friends that he would not marry my friend, but comes around with sugar-coated words that he will do all within his power to marry her.
l must be frank that l cannot stand the double standard game he is playing with my friend.
While observers see the relationship as lacking credibility and, therefore, cannot last, she considers it as true love and has given her whole heart to him.
Can l impress upon her to end the relationship?
Belinda-Accra.
Dear Belinda,
You must be frank and tell your friend the truth about how you view their relationship.
Attempting to strangle her for no apparent reason should not be taken lightly. This gentleman can end her life if she fails to take serious view of current happenings in the relationship.
Judging from the utterances of the gentleman and what had transpired between them so far, it would be ideal if your friend ends the relationship in order to stay alive.
It is unfortunate she does not perceive what others see about their relationship.
Obaa Yaa
She says the girl is not my child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Amos, I am not married but have one child who I cater for. Just recently when I sent my child weekly money for her upkeep, her mother asked me not to bother.
She said that the child was not mine and that she was prepared to pay for everything I have spent on them.
Obaa Yaa, life around me now is hell. I can’t come to terms with what she is telling me after taking care of my child for six years.
Obaa Yaa, what can make a woman behave like this? What should do?
Amos,
Kwahu.
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Dear Amos,
I am really sorry for you. However, it is good that this woman is saying something you have not investigated and know for certainty if the child is yours or not. That will keep your mind at rest.
Take a lawyer and send the matter to court. The court will most certainly order a paternity test where you can know your stand as to the parentage of this girl.
If she is yours, you can take legal steps to claim her from the dishonest mother. If it is proved that she is not your child, then you can make your lawyer prepare a bill for the woman to reimburse you for all you have spent on the child.
Obaa Yaa
I am barren, my husband has impregnated girl, 18
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 40 years old married for 10 years. I have been to so many hospitals in the country, herbalists and even to spiritualists for a help in child bearing, but to no avail.
My problem now is that, I have just been hinted that my husband has impregnated an 18- year old girl.
He does everything for her. Even though he has not neglected me, I am very hurt, and what can I do?
Akua,
Koforidua.
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Dear Akua,
IT is always good for everybody to investigate what he or she hears before whole-heartedly accepting it as a gospel truth.
Most rumours are peddled about people but they turn out to be false.
Anyhow, let your husband know, what you have heard and let him react to it. You may found out that it is a different story altogether.
However, if it turns out to be true, then it means your husband has not lived up to his marriage vows, and depending on what your religious principles and emotions are, you might advise yourself.
Another option is to stick to your husband and continue seeking a child of your own.
Don’t get stressed out though, take it cool and seek diligently for yours. One day, you will have the last laugh.
