Obaa Yaa
Though married, she is worrying me
Two years ago, l met a female driver whose car had a punctured tyre and at the same time her phone also went off for which reason she could not call the husband for assistance.
I had to take the tyre to be worked on, returned and fixed it for her after which she heaved a sigh of relief.
Filled with excitement that day, she picked me in her car and took me home to know where l lived.
That evening, l had a call from a man who introduced himself as the husband of the lady l had assisted earlier in the day.
The following morning, l was surprised to see the couple in my house with a big parcel for me. Though l objected and explained that l did not help the lady in anticipation of a gift but the man said that was the beginning of their kindness and added that l was always welcome to their house.
The following week, the lady invited me out for dinner and in the process told me that she loved me and was grateful that l had assisted her at the time she was in dire need.
Although l was tipsy after drinking enough alcohol, l failed to resist the temptation and continued to drink until l could not walk any longer.
Unfortunately, l woke up only to discover that l was lying in bed with this woman. This lady gives me money every day and has told me that she enjoyed making love with me and pleads that we should continue. But l am afraid of my actions and l have decided not to have an affair with her again. How can you help me out of this case? L need an urgent help.
Kwame, Accra
Dear Kwame,
You should not take pleasure in the money this married woman is showering on you and continue to indulge in illegitimate sex with her.
This act is abominable and you must resist every attempt by this woman to entice you to bed. You must be careful because this woman’s husband could contract people to kill you, if he gets to know what you are doing. A word to a wise is enough.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
