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Where is that vital respect for the elderly gone?

Showing respect for elders is a way of showing that we value them

The Holy Bible says in Ephesians 6: 1-3 that, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.  Honour your father and mother that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land”.  Then 1 Peter 2:7, it says, “Honour all men, love the brotherhood, fear God, honour the King”.

This shows that the Holy Scriptures acknowledge that respect for one another, especially the elderly is so crucial and important in all schemes of affairs on this earth.

RESPECT AND WHAT IT MEANS

Respect in clear terms means that you accept somebody or persons for who they are even when they are different from you or you don’t agree with them.  Receiving respect from others is important because it helps us to feel safe and to express ourselves well.  Respect in relationship, therefore, builds feelings of trust, safety and well-being.

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Though the definition of respect may vary, it usually centres on character, experience and ethics.  Respect often starts from an early age and continues to develop over time.  Growing up, our parents usually taught us to show respect to people and things from different backgrounds.  We were taught to respect authority, such as teachers, the security apparatus and more importantly our elders and senior citizens.  Many of us were also taught to show respect to our dear country or the national flag which is the identity of the nation.  Sometimes we respect a position not necessarily the person who occupies that position which is not healthy and the best option.

WHY IS RESPECT IMPORTANT?

Someone may ask why is respect important?  The answer is very simple and straightforward. It is an essential qualification for a successful career and is sought after your progress through various stages of leadership and responsibility.  Simply put, it is something that you want to earn and something you want to bestow.  Wherever you are on your career path, it is never too late to focus on recognising those who deserve respect and for you to broaden your efforts to earn the respect of business associates.

It is important to note that these days, respect for one another, especially respecting the elderly by the youth has become a major problem in this beautiful country of ours called Ghana.  The youth of today, see nothing wrong in disobeying and showing respect to the elderly in the society.  They continue to ignore pieces of advice from the older generation and often pour venom on them at the least opportunity without any justifiable reason.  Many young people are hesitant to show respect to adults if they have been disrespected by other adults.

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TODAY’S YOUTH BEING DISRESPECTFUL

One may ask why today’s youth are so disrespectful?  The answer is simply because of lack of manners.  Whereas previous generations misbehaved as a rebellion against authorities, some of today’s youth are so caught up in their own self belief that no authorities exist in their minds.

Experts feel that the times have changed and the entire society has undergone a vast transformation.  The youth of today are certainly not thoughtless or insensitive, but it is just that competition has increased so much that possibly these youngsters have little time and patience.  They prefer faster pace of maintaining relation which is via internet or Facebook.  Besides, much also depends on the upbringing and values inculcated in them by their parents. Lots depend on the upbringing by parents as they failed to impact good manners which is an asset in personal and professional lives.  A well- mannered person commands more respect in society.

PARENTS SHIRKING THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES

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It is a fact that most parents of today are a contributory factor to the indiscipline and disrespect to the elderly by their children.  They are, indeed, doing a great disservice and leading them astray because these parents for reasons best known to themselves, don’t show interest in their upbringing.  Their children dress anyhow, thus exposing their bodies and when the elders try to correct them, then the insults emanate.

The electronic devices such as the internet, mobile phones, with their resultant Facebook (now Meta), Instagram, WhatsApp, among others, have also aggravated the situation with all kinds of dirty and pornographic materials and negative foreign cultures, from which our youth try to copy blindly and you dare not talk of this bad and negative behaviours.  The internet and the social media have become the platform for the youth to insult people in high authority by posting all kinds of dirty, obnoxious and unprintable materials castigating people with unfounded allegations.

YOUTH NOT INTERESTED IN ELDERLY ADVICE

The youth of today feel they are on top of issues and, therefore, need no guidance nor advice from anyone on how to manage their affairs.  They don’t want to take any advice from the elderly as they consider them people who have outlived their usefulness and are bereft of ideas.  They fail to realise that the older generation is a repository of wisdom that they can take advantage of and tap for their own good.

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Parents have a major responsibility and task of ensuring that their children are well trained and cultured to respect older people.  On regular basis they have to talk to their children to respect the elderly and also to tell them that their behaviour matters a lot to them since they don’t want any disappointment from them whatsoever.  They have to explain to their children that they need to be polite to people they know as well as strangers.  It is important for parents to make sure that their children know that there are no exceptions to being polite and courteous to elders.

ESSENCE OF RESPECTING THE ELDERLY

Showing respect to others is reciprocal.  It simply means that you can get the same amount of respect as you give out.  Showing appreciation of kindness is impossible without reverence.  The fact is you cannot appreciate someone or something you do not hold in high esteem.  You cannot really appreciate God if you do not respect Him.  Being respectful shows you are grateful.  When respect is lost, trust is lost.  The bridge to gaining the trust of others is built by respect.  Trust is, therefore, a valuable commodity.

The fact is that people you respect, will not only respect you back, but they will love you also.  In reality your respect for others will be the foundation of their love for you.  Respect is one of the things that make you teach better people because people will like to hear from you.  When you show respect to others, people will look up to you to teach them about things.  Finally, not only will your social life improve when you respect others.  Your life in general, will become better as a result of respecting others.

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Showing respect to others irrespective of their background is so crucial and vital and we need to cultivate this habit to forge ahead. Parents must also show much interest in their children and ensure that they get the needed training that will promote mutual respect for one another, more importantly for the elderly in the society.

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By Charles Neequaye

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 Who knows tomorrow?

 Recently a friend posted a sad news on his Facebook page, announcing the death of a school mate who had passed away, suddenly. The report had it that he was on his way to the airport to take a flight to Ghana.

I am sure this man had already informed the wife or a friend or a work colleague at work that he was returning home but he was not to return as a human being but as a dead body.

Such is life and so we need to be circumspect in how we go about things in life. The Bible reminds us that we are like grass which at one point in time looks elegant and the next moment becomes with­ered according to Psalm 90:5 and 6. It is for this reason that we need to guard our hearts with the word of God so that we shall be motivated to do the right thing, at all times.

This will enable us live on this planet, free from all sorts of troubles in our person­al lives, even if we ignore the question of Heaven and Hell. Living a disciplined life delivers us from any kind of trouble as the Bible declares in Galatians 5:23 that against such there is no law.

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The uncertainty surrounding our lives on earth is the more reason why people should commit their lives into the hands of the one who created it, in the first place unless you believe that the world created itself and that it appeared from nowhere.

Otherwise, the logical thing to do is to recognize the authority of the creator and surrender to his Lordship. Heaven is real and Hell is real, so for us who know the truth and have received Jesus as our Lord and Saviour, the onus lies on us to encourage our re­lations who have not believed and received Jesus into their lives, to do so.

We are a couple of days from another Easter Resurrec­tion celebration and an oppor­tunity to reflect on our lives in relation to the significance of Easter. In the Bible, the only occasion Jesus, Saviour of the world commands us to celebrate is his death and resurrection.

He never commanded his followers to celebrate his birth but like everything else, we chose to ignore Jesus’s instructions and decided to do what pleases us, just like our forefather and mother in the Garden of Eden.

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Let us deliberately choose to do things differently as Christians this Easter, so we can really benefit from all the blessings that the celebra­tion of the death and birth of Jesus, has on offer. Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is definitely insanity.

I choose to be different this Easter and I am believing God for a newness of life so God’s glory would be revealed in me to draw the unsaved to him. It is only when people espe­cially the unsaved, see the character of Christ in us, that they can be convinced about the authenticity of Jesus, as Saviour of the world, who can bring transformation in their lives too.

This is what would motivate them to surrender their lives to Jesus Christ. Let us make this Easter a memorable one that will be cherished for a long time. It is also a period for reconciliation and it would be great if in the spirit of Eas­ter, we would try to reach out to those who have wronged us or have a grudge against us.

This would demonstrate that we have indeed accepted Jesus and that our religious posture is not a sham. May the good Lord grant us the grace to love our neighbours as our­selves, demonstrating the love of God in the process.

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Those who have lost their loved ones and Easter brings sad memories, may the good Lord comfort and strengthen you. God bless.

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 Cosmetic deformities

 COSMETIC deformities refer to physical imper­fections or abnormalities that affect an individual’s appearance, often causing emotional distress and impact­ing their quality of life.

These deformities can be congenital, acquired, or result from various medical con­ditions or treatments. This article provides an in-depth exploration of cosmetic defor­mities, their types, causes, ef­fects, and treatment options.

Types of cosmetic deformi­ties

Cosmetic deformities can affect various parts of the body, including the face, skin, hair, nails, and teeth. Some common types of cosmetic deformities include:

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1. Facial deformities: Congenital or acquired abnor­malities affecting the shape, structure, or appearance of the face, such as cleft lip and palate, facial paralysis, or facial asymmetry.

2. Skin deformities: Con­ditions affecting the skin’s texture, tone, or appearance, such as acne, scars, birth­marks, or skin discoloration.

3. Hair deformities: Abnor­malities affecting the hair’s growth, texture, or appear­ance, such as alopecia, hirsut­ism, or hair loss due to medi­cal conditions or treatments.

4. Nail deformities: Condi­tions affecting the shape, size, or appearance of the nails, such as nail fungus, nail psori­asis, or nail trauma.

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5. Dental deformities: Abnormalities affecting the shape, size, or appearance of the teeth, such as tooth decay, tooth loss, or malocclu­sion.

Causes of cosmetic defor­mities

Cosmetic deformities can result from various factors, including:

1. Genetics: Congenital con­ditions or inherited traits can cause cosmetic deformities.

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2. Trauma: Injuries or acci­dents can result in cosmetic deformities, such as scars or facial trauma.

3. Medical conditions: Cer­tain medical conditions, such as acne, psoriasis, or eczema, can cause cosmetic deformi­ties.

4. Treatments and proce­dures: Medical treatments, such as chemotherapy, radia­tion therapy, or surgery, can result in cosmetic deformities.

5. Aging and environmental factors: Aging, sun exposure, and environmental factors can contribute to cosmetic defor­mities, such as wrinkles, fine lines, or age spots.

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Effects of cosmetic defor­mities

Cosmetic deformities can have significant emotional and psychological effects on individuals, including:

1. Low self-esteem: Cos­metic deformities can lead to feelings of insecurity, self-con­sciousness, and low self-es­teem.

2. Social anxiety: Individu­als with cosmetic deformities may experience social anxiety, avoiding social interactions or feeling embarrassed in public.

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3. Emotional distress: Cos­metic deformities can cause emotional distress, including depression, anxiety, or stress.

4. Impact on quality of life: Cosmetic deformities can affect an individual’s quality of life, impacting their rela­tionships, career, or overall well-being.

Treatment options for cos­metic deformities

Various treatment options are available to address cos­metic deformities, including:

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1. Surgical procedures: Surgical procedures, such as reconstructive surgery, cos­metic surgery, or dermatolog­ical surgery, can correct or improve cosmetic deformities.

2. Non-surgical treatments: Non-surgical treatments, such as laser therapy, chemical peels, or microdermabrasion, can address cosmetic con­cerns, such as skin texture, tone, or appearance.

3. Medical treatments: Medi­cal treatments, such as topical creams, oral medications, or injectable treatments, can address cosmetic concerns, such as acne, hair loss, or nail deformities.

4. Prosthetic and orthot­ic devices: Prosthetic and orthotic devices, such as wigs, hairpieces, or dental prosthet­ics, can help individuals with cosmetic deformities.

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5. Counselling and thera­py: Counselling and therapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy or psychotherapy, can help individuals cope with the emotional and psychological effects of cosmetic deformi­ties.

Conclusion

Cosmetic deformities can have significant emotional and psychological effects on individuals, impacting their quality of life and overall well-being.

Understanding the types, causes, and effects of cos­metic deformities is crucial in addressing these concerns.

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Various treatment options are available, ranging from surgical procedures to non-sur­gical treatments, medical treatments, prosthetic and orthotic devices, and counsel­ling and therapy.

By seeking professional help and support, individuals with cosmetic deformities can improve their appearance, boost their self-esteem, and enhance their overall quality of life.

Reference

1. “Cosmetic Deformities” by the American Society of Plastic Surgeons

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