Obaa Yaa
What should I do now?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
From my perspective, I can say with conviction that finding a lover is indeed a tough one. Thinking of who to date and marry drives me nuts every day because people keep changing over time.
There is this girl in my area who I have been ‘crushing’ on for some time now. I consulted an elderly person in my area on my decision to propose love to this girl and he took me along the lines of approaching her. Everything turned out to be sailing smoothly until I got bounced.
Sadly, I said to myself not to approach her or any lady again but then I gave it a second thought.
Should I try again, maybe this time round my luck will shine or I should just forget about her and move on?
Kelvin Boakye, Osu
Dear Kelvin,
You did not mention the reason the lady in question gave when she ‘bounced’ you. In the absence of that, I would give a generic advice to you.
If her reasons are not religious or she being married or dating, you could give it a second try. There’s no harm in trying at love the second time. But that notwithstanding, you could offer to be an acquaintance and take it slowly.
Obaa Yaa
What subjects should I choose?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I took part in General Certificate Examination, Ordinary Level (‘O’ level ), and passed in five subjects including English language 6, Modern Mathematics 5, Commerce 3, Business Management 5, and Accounting 6.
With Economics, I had 8. Due to economic constraints it would be impossible for me to attempt the economics again.
What I need from you is an advice as to which subjects I should take at the Advance level so as to go to the University.
I would also like to know the type of career I should take at the University.
A.J, Accra.
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Dear A.J
If you want to go to the Sixth form, then you would have to avoid all the subjects except the Commerce and Business Management. But since you are talking of financial constraints, you will have to look for a job and later register for part-time studies in order to take the exams.
That will not be easy but with determination, you can do it.
The career you choose finally should depend on what subjects you do best.
Obaa Yaa
I’m having second thoughts
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My man and I are planning a wedding which will take place within the next few months. It will be preceded by an engagement.
But I am beginning to have second thoughts because I suspect that my man was hiding some negative things about his character.
For instance, I visited him at his office unexpectedly, and he was exchanging profanities with another worker.
At another time, he was chasing a female worker around the office and everyone was laughing. But he is a very polite man when we are alone.
Which one do you think is his true character?
It is very important for me because I don’t want to marry a joker.
A.B, Sewhi
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Dear A.B
I don’t think you love this man at all, otherwise you will not be having second thoughts about his other side.
If you are for him, tell him how you felt on the occasions that you went to his office. Don’t make an issue out of it; let him know how much it affected you.
If he cares for you, he will do something about it.
But it might interest you to know that the behaviour of people differs when at home and at work places
