Obaa Yaa
Can women be trusted?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young man who is trying to find my true bearing in life and equally battling with a relationship issue.
I am of the view that despite the challenges that confront man, life must be lived to its fullest. I have been single for the past six years after my first girlfriend broke my heart.
Though I did all I could to make her feel what true happiness was, she succeeded in breaking my heart by leaving me for a rich man in our community.
The trust I had in my lady coupled with the pain I endured as a result of the break up has made it impossible for me to propose to another lady.
My disappointment is gradually giving way since I am a bit skeptical about entering a new relationship due to my past experience.
I am not enthused about the ladies around me who appear to be loving because I feel they could also treat me like my previous lover.
Please how do I know if one of these ladies would be the right person to marry?
Newton, Spintex-Accra.
Dear Newton,
I wish to assure you that women can be trusted and that you cannot judge all women by the character of one woman.
You must stop crying over spilt milk now that your former lady has a lover. Additionally, your action is being guided by the adage which says “Once bitten twice shy.”
It is unfortunate that your past experience in a relationship is having a serious effect on your imagination and this is preventing you from taking the next step in your relationship.
Your first experience should not cloud your imagination about the positive side of life. However, you must take inspiration from another adage which says “If you fail to take risk in life, you cannot win a war.”
You ought to consider taking another risk by going into a relationship, and since all the hands are not equal, you may be surprised to meet a lady with a different character and there is the possibility that the two of you will be compatible and end up becoming a successful couple.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
