Obaa Yaa
Do I deserve love?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
The Bible says in Genesis 2:24, “that is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. For this reason, every human is entitled to marry but in my case, I am even finding it different to choose a loved one. It’s been years since I started searching for love but to no avail. The reason is that I am timid when it comes to approaching ladies or even starting conversations.
Not to blow my own horn, but some ladies approach me most often to propose love to me but I have no feelings for such ladies, and the ones I love too I find it difficult to approach them and propose love to them. Do I deserve love? Or I am meant not to be loved by anyone? Currently, I have someone in mind who I am finding difficult to approach but I am afraid that she might be taken by another man. This has been the issue I have been facing over the past years and I sometimes think I do not deserve love or love is meant for other people and not me. What should I do in such a case?
From Desmond Tetteh, Abeka
Dear Desmond.
It’s unfortunate that you refer to yourself as timid. To build your confidence, you could find some books on that to help you. After you have done that, muster courage and approach her, and let her know your intention. Do this before it is late most people have lost their opportunity to express their feeling to their beloved by waiting too long or not having courage to. More importantly, while you make friends with look out for compatibility and compromise where necessary.
Go for Desmond you deserve love and treat her well when she accepts to be with you.
Cheers!
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
