Obaa Yaa
How will the end be?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I Started dating this guy since I completied SHS and everything has been sailing smoothly but I am of the view that he might jilt me along the way due to my past experience.
I must confess, my guy is as gentle as a lamb but I have trust issues with him since he does not openly tell me everything he is going through.
Until recently, he has started putting up weird behaviour which I am uncomfortable with but I have decided to swim against the tide because it seems he is not taking me serious anymore. He does not pick my calls, besides he shouts at me. I currently have my heart in my mouth because I can foresee danger ahead but I do not want to be a victim.
Ama, Osu
Dear Ama,
Every relationship has its ups and downs. Trust issues should be handled with tact. I advise that when you get in touch with him politely ask if he wants to remain in the relationship with you. I believe he will tell you about his problems and seek help. In the meantime if you still get the same treatment from him be focused, forge ahead in life and pursue your dream. Build your life and any good man would cherish you once you are positive and progressive.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
