Obaa Yaa
Do I deserve love?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
The Bible says in Genesis 2:24, “that is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. For this reason, every human is entitled to marry but in my case, I am even finding it different to choose a loved one. It’s been years since I started searching for love but to no avail. The reason is that I am timid when it comes to approaching ladies or even starting conversations.
Not to blow my own horn, but some ladies approach me most often to propose love to me but I have no feelings for such ladies, and the ones I love too I find it difficult to approach them and propose love to them. Do I deserve love? Or I am meant not to be loved by anyone? Currently, I have someone in mind who I am finding difficult to approach but I am afraid that she might be taken by another man. This has been the issue I have been facing over the past years and I sometimes think I do not deserve love or love is meant for other people and not me. What should I do in such a case?
From Desmond Tetteh, Abeka
Dear Desmond.
It’s unfortunate that you refer to yourself as timid. To build your confidence, you could find some books on that to help you. After you have done that, muster courage and approach her, and let her know your intention. Do this before it is late most people have lost their opportunity to express their feeling to their beloved by waiting too long or not having courage to. More importantly, while you make friends with look out for compatibility and compromise where necessary.
Go for Desmond you deserve love and treat her well when she accepts to be with you.
Cheers!
Obaa Yaa
What subjects should I choose?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I took part in General Certificate Examination, Ordinary Level (‘O’ level ), and passed in five subjects including English language 6, Modern Mathematics 5, Commerce 3, Business Management 5, and Accounting 6.
With Economics, I had 8. Due to economic constraints it would be impossible for me to attempt the economics again.
What I need from you is an advice as to which subjects I should take at the Advance level so as to go to the University.
I would also like to know the type of career I should take at the University.
A.J, Accra.
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Dear A.J
If you want to go to the Sixth form, then you would have to avoid all the subjects except the Commerce and Business Management. But since you are talking of financial constraints, you will have to look for a job and later register for part-time studies in order to take the exams.
That will not be easy but with determination, you can do it.
The career you choose finally should depend on what subjects you do best.
Obaa Yaa
I’m having second thoughts
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My man and I are planning a wedding which will take place within the next few months. It will be preceded by an engagement.
But I am beginning to have second thoughts because I suspect that my man was hiding some negative things about his character.
For instance, I visited him at his office unexpectedly, and he was exchanging profanities with another worker.
At another time, he was chasing a female worker around the office and everyone was laughing. But he is a very polite man when we are alone.
Which one do you think is his true character?
It is very important for me because I don’t want to marry a joker.
A.B, Sewhi
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Dear A.B
I don’t think you love this man at all, otherwise you will not be having second thoughts about his other side.
If you are for him, tell him how you felt on the occasions that you went to his office. Don’t make an issue out of it; let him know how much it affected you.
If he cares for you, he will do something about it.
But it might interest you to know that the behaviour of people differs when at home and at work places
