Obaa Yaa
Exchange house with abortion
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been in a relationship close to five years with a married man and have enjoyed every aspect of it. My lover ensured that we both went on trips within and out of the country.
Our relationship took us through interesting moments and during one of our outings, we were nearly caught in our hideout by his wife who attended a seminar at the same hotel we lodged.
Having suffered many insults and embarrassments from his wife, l became pregnant and he impressed on me to abort it in exchange of a house.
Unfortunately, six months after causing the abortion, my lover decided to back out of the relationship with an excuse that l cheated on him and that he would not allow himself to be deceived by me because he had learnt a bitter lesson from the past.
What should l do?
Sarah, Accra.
Dear Sarah,
The challenges you have gone through explain the fact that it is not safe and acceptable to fall in love with somebody’s husband.
The insults, humiliations and disgrace you might have gone through should be enough to convince you to take a definite decision to break up the relationship with this man. It is not advisable to take delight in the support you are receiving from him.
You will never know peace so long as you maintain this unhealthy relationship. This is the time to take control of your life and resist the temptation of falling in love with this gentleman again.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
