Obaa Yaa
Former girlfriend is still showing interest in me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We attended the same church and were very close and this closeness led to an intimate relationship between us.
Relations, friends and acquaintances knew about our friendship and some of them even referred to us as husband and wife.
Unfortunately, two years on, things changed suddenly and attempts made to repair the broken relationship had fallen on rocks.
My lover has failed to respond to my calls and would not make attempts to call me either. Though some friends who were eager to see us together as a couple tried their best, they could not succeed.
Finally, my friend got married to an influential rich man who promised to do everything for her, but the man died two years after their marriage leaving a child between them.
Five years after the death of her husband she has been pleading that she had made a bad decision and that l should re- reconsider her since l was not married.
According to her, she wished she were my wife because of my character and humility.
Advise me on the step to take.
Kwame, Kumasi.
Dear Kwame,
Your former girlfriend has taken a wrong decision by stepping you aside for a wealthy person. It was unfortunate that she did not consider the love that had existed between you and went ahead to make you suffer disappointment.
Having abandoned you for another person suggests that she has made you a second-rated lover and cannot be trusted.
Would she have been giving you considerations if the ex-husband were alive with all the pleasure and splendour surrounding her?
From all indications, she is the type who is susceptible to sweet promises and pleasure.
You should not hesitate in telling her that you are no longer interested in her. On the contrary, you are at liberty to make your own decision in this matter.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
