Obaa Yaa
He has a ‘bushy’ armpit
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 25 years and my boyfriend is 30 years. We have been dating for three years now and I must confess I am certain I have met my dream partner.
We have always been happy together since we met and this has made our friends very envious of our relationship.
However, there is this one particular thing about him that is putting me off and making me have a rethink about our relationship.
The issue is that he has a very ‘bushy’ armpit which is embarrassing to me.
I have spoken to him about it several times but each time I complain, he will tell me that it makes him feel comfortable and sexy.
Obaa Yaa, I really love this guy and do not wish to leave him but I don’t like the unkempt armpit either.
What do you suggest I do?
Diana,
Somanya.
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Dear Diana,
I would suggest you have a little patience with him. I believe that if you continue complaining about it, he will eventually come to the realisation that you do not like his over-hairy-armpit and gradually clear it if he really loves you.
However, you need to be careful about how you go about it in order not to sound disrespectful. You must talk to him in a calm and respectful manner; that way he’ll listen to you and trim it.
Also, you could promise to get him a reward if he gets it shaved.
I believe this would help save your relationship.
Obaa Yaa
Can malt make me tall?
Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?
I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.
They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.
Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?
Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.
Oware
Accra.
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Dear Oware,
People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.
You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.
But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.
There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.
Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.
Obaa Yaa
I want a divorce
Dear Obaa Yaa,
After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.
I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.
My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.
Owusu,
Tafo.
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Dear Owusu
Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.
Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.
Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.
If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.
