Obaa Yaa
He has a ‘bushy’ armpit
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 25 years and my boyfriend is 30 years. We have been dating for three years now and I must confess I am certain I have met my dream partner.
We have always been happy together since we met and this has made our friends very envious of our relationship.
However, there is this one particular thing about him that is putting me off and making me have a rethink about our relationship.
The issue is that he has a very ‘bushy’ armpit which is embarrassing to me.
I have spoken to him about it several times but each time I complain, he will tell me that it makes him feel comfortable and sexy.
Obaa Yaa, I really love this guy and do not wish to leave him but I don’t like the unkempt armpit either.
What do you suggest I do?
Diana,
Somanya.
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Dear Diana,
I would suggest you have a little patience with him. I believe that if you continue complaining about it, he will eventually come to the realisation that you do not like his over-hairy-armpit and gradually clear it if he really loves you.
However, you need to be careful about how you go about it in order not to sound disrespectful. You must talk to him in a calm and respectful manner; that way he’ll listen to you and trim it.
Also, you could promise to get him a reward if he gets it shaved.
I believe this would help save your relationship.
Obaa Yaa
They said the carpenter is not a good match
Dear Obaa Yaa,
As a University graduate from the prestigious University of Ghana currently doing my National Service in a very great institution, I am dating a carpenter who barely completed his Junior High School.
I love him, and I don’t see any problem dating him but my sisters are against it.
I started dating him when I was in my third year, he is caring, free spirit and kind.
My sisters are saying he is not a good match for me and he will block my chances in future.
He’s even demanding to go see my parents.
Please what should I do?
Miriam,North Legon
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Dear Miriam,
I can see the love for your boyfriend is deep. I pray the two of you will be in this boat forever.
Love does not show class, level etc. It’s about two matured people who have decided to build a family together.
In your letter, you mentioned that your sisters were against you marrying the carpenter. They are looking at your boyfriend’s background and occupation.
If you really love him, you can help him to register for courses in order to upgrade his schooling and make his business very attractive.
I know there are men who are interested in you as well. But don’t let that get into your head. Take your time and study all of them because marriage is a long journey.
Take him to your parents as well, they might even like him.
Obaa Yaa
He has stopped going to church
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am going through hell. I have been married for five years and I have known no peace.
My husband who was a staunch Christian before we married has taken to serious drinking.
And anytime he is drunk, he insults me for no reason. We have a child together.
He has stopped going to church with us. Anytime he is drunk, he doesn’t come home.
I can’t cope any longer with the marriage, I want to quit. I need your wise counsel.
Yaa Mansa,
Techiman.
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Dear Yaa Mansa,
Married is not a straight road. It can be rough and winding sometimes because many factors come to play.
Frustration at work can turn a man into a drunkard. Even nagging can change the nice character of a man.
Financial problems can change a man’s mood.
So humans do change, but the good thing is that they can also change for the better.
However before a person can change, the root cause of his problem must be ascertained.
Find out why your husband is drinking and also stopped going to church and help him to reform.
Note that in such circumstances, nagging does no good. He must be sympathized with and helped to turn around, and not condemned.
