Obaa Yaa
He keeps threatening me
Dear Obaa Yaa
My best friend’s boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, and any time I try to end it, he threatens to tell my friend.
They have been dating for five years and planning to get married next year but he does not want to let me go.
I have stopped sending messages or calling him in an attempt to end our relationship, but he never goes a day without doing so. He will either keep calling or come to my shop to look for me if I do not pick up.
And when I refuse to be intimate with him, then his threats start. He sometimes tells me that I will definitely be his second wife and that scares me to death.
I really want to tell my friend but I am afraid that might cost us our lovely friendship and even our business together.
Please what should I do?
Akua, Amasaman.
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Dear Akua,
First and foremost, you are responsible for the results of your actions. Why did you date him even though you knew he was your friend’s boyfriend?
This gentleman is a womaniser; someone who has no remorse and by his character he cannot work for a successful marriage.
Additionally, he will never be content with his wife. He is capable of breaking marriages and friendships.
Despite his continuous threats to expose your amorous relationship with him to your friend, you must take the bull by the horn and sever links with him, because he will tarnish your reputation and destroy your future.
You must take this bold decission in order to save your friendship with your friend and secure your business.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
