Obaa Yaa
I am in love with a sex worker
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Am a 36-year-old man in a reputable institution and doing well in my endeavours.
On my way home one day, I met a 27- year- old beautiful lady who is a university student and sex worker.
I gave her a lift and since then I find it difficult to forget about this lady.
Since I have fallen in love with her, I asked her one day why she has decided to be a sex worker.
She explained that she is an orphan and has no one to cater for her so she does it for a living.
I am deeply in love with her. Should I marry her?
Albert, Cantonment.
Dear Albert,
Your case is a dicey one because falling in love is one thing and getting the right person to marry is another.
This is a fifty-fifty case because as a sex worker she might be exposed to many clients for which reason she might have developed an insatiable desire for sex at all times. Therefore when married, she will never be satisfied with sex and this will result in infidelity and related problems.
On the contrary, somebody who has been pushed into sex work because of necessity could change her behaviour when she obtains a stable source of livelihood.
If she will be truly repentant and become a changed person for good, then you will experience a successful marriage life.
Should you decide to marry her, then you ought to take your time and study her before you do so.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
