Obaa Yaa
I am tired of his lies and empty promises
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in a relationship over five years and l am beginning to entertain fears that my lover is deceiving me with unfulfilled promises.
I feel disappointed anytime l remember my past life, especially when l disobeyed my parents and made them to become the laughing stock in the community.
My boyfriend persuaded me to stop school, leave the comfort of my parents’ home, l defied the orders of my parents and foolishly followed him.
Unfortunately, l am now struggling to get my daily bread and things are not going on well with me.
We have aborted two pregnancies and l am entertaining fears that l will be pregnant pretty soon and would be compelled to abort another pregnancy with the excuse that “l am not ready to father a child”.
I am tired of his lies and empty promises and making me a laughing stock in the community.
Though l love him, l have decided to forget about him and return to my parents to plead for forgiveness.
Will my parents take me back?
Alice, Accra.
Dear Alice,
Defying the orders of your parents in the first instance was not good because you have disobeyed the orders of God.
I can envisage how your parents will feel being let down by someone they had spent their love, resources, time and energy looking after from childhood till you became of age.
Your defiance could be likened to a stab in the back and they must have been disappointed in you.
Repeated abortions could block your chances of becoming pregnant, especially at a time you may need a child. Therefore, the earlier you leave your boyfriend, the better it will serve your interest and safeguard your future.
It will be in your interest to go back to your parents like the prodigal son in the Bible and plead for mercy.
I have the belief that they will welcome you back.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
