Obaa Yaa
I can’t tell who owns this pregnancy
Dear ObaaYaa,
It was quite interesting and l thought l was smart enough to maintain two male friends. One was a student from a wealthy family and the other a renowned and generous businessman who did not feel reluctant to provide for my close friends at school.
I must confess that l played the game in such a clean manner that either men did not know l was cuckolding them. Being a student in the university, I took advantage of my flexible lecture periods to enjoy playing with these two gentlemen.
Though my close friends were uncomfortable and complained about the double game l played, l did not mind them but continued.
l was delighted playing my cards to perfection in outwitting them.
Unfortunately, luck has run out on me and l am pregnant without no ideaof the one who owns the pregnancy.
My headache is, ‘who owns the pregnancy since l do meet both men on daily basis?’
Maame-Accra.
Dear Maame,
You should have known from the outset that there is a price to pay for everything that one does and nothing is permanent on earth.
You are in an embarrassed state now because if the two men discover that you have played games with them over the period, they will not take kindly to it and you stand the danger of being rejected by both of them.
Though the determination of paternity of the child can be done easily, you should consider the embarrassment you will face before reaching this decision.
This pregnancy is a lesson to you that it pays to live a good life.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
