Obaa Yaa
I suspect she is cheating on me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
l am 27 years old and my wife is 24. We have been in friendship for six years and things went on well. I sponsored her to undergo a- four- year hair dressing apprenticeship after which l organised a grand party to mark the completion of her training.
When she started working, she was full of gratitude to me for facilitating her apprenticeship training throughout the period. She would close early from work and come to my residence to prepare meals for me.
However, l later discovered that her visits to me were not as frequent as they used to be. When l enquired, she told me that her customers increased daily and that she had a lot of work to do.
Though l was not convinced, l ignored her answer and concluded that l should give her time to change. But the way things are going it is a clear testimony that she has a lover who is taking too much of her time.
Having got the fact that she is having an affair with somebody, l am contemplating telling her to pay the money l have spent on her with interest, else she will be inflicted with a strange disease till she dies.
I think nobody will blame me if l go ahead with my plan.
Kwesi- Mankessim.
Dear Kwesi,
Take it easy and try to forget about the sacrifices and the assistance you have made to make her fully established in life.
You must remember that you have not as yet performed any rites to officially make her become your wife.
I am sure it was not easy raising funds to support her throughout her apprenticeship, yet l would appeal to you to consider all that you have done for her a charitable act which should not attract a reward in return.
I believe you are a Christian and God will not be happy if you cause her to fall sick to serve as punishment for cheating on you.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
