Obaa Yaa
Is my girlfriend real?
Dear Obaa Yaa
I am 30 years of age, dating a girl of 26 years for two years now. She is a banker and I am a pharmacist.
Our relationship used to be a long distance one because of the nature of our jobs till I came back home to settle.
I went through her phone the first time to see how she was managing her life while I was away. Surprisingly, I didn’t see a single chat history on her phone with any other friend except me.
I checked for the second time and the third time and saw nothing of that sort.
Is it normal for a girl not to chat with anybody except her boyfriend?
James, Gbawe
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Dear James,
From my perspective, your girlfriend should be s a commended for her faithfulness to you.
I would strongly advise you to cherish your relationship with her.
Instead of harbouring doubts about this, you should rather praise her because it is not easy to find genuine good and kind-hearted person like her. They are very rare species.
Holding on to a relationship with such a ‘good girl’ is an opportunity to rather appreciate rather than having thoughts you can hardly find evidence to substantiate.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
