Obaa Yaa
Men take advantage of me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been disappointed by men several times because I was genuinely looking for a partner in life.
Initially they pretend to be loving, caring, very submissive, and appear to be responsible for my wellbeing. Some of them have taken advantage of my generosity and duped me of huge sums of money and eventually had sex with me with the promise to marry me.
This attitude has made it difficult for me to trust men and I think it will be better for me to remain single. Do you share my view?
Francisca, Tema.
Dear Francisca,
The numerous setbacks you have had must certainly give you the idea that it will be better for you to remain single in order to have your peace of mind. It also suggests that you should be very careful when dealing with men.
Though not all men behave in the way these gentlemen had done, there are others who are loving, caring and genuinely ready for marriage.
Under the circumstance, you ought to critically study men who approach and propose love to you. Additionally, you must be hesitant in accepting the promises they make.
This will put a stop to men who take advantage of you.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
