Obaa Yaa
My husband wants to take a second wife
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been living together for four years now. We have everything one needs to live a comfortable life.
The love we shared was envied by lots of people including our close friends.
My only problem with the marriage is that within the four years of our marriage I haven’t been able to give my husband a child.
Initially, my husband was okay with me not being able to give him any child since we got married.
However, the continuous pressure from my husband’s family has become unbearable hence my husband is forced to do what his family members are requesting him to do.
My husband is forced to take a second wife who will be able to bear him a child or children.
I have no option than to allow him get a second wife.
However, I am confused as to whether what I’m about to do is the right way to go about the situation.
Please tell me, what should I do?
Faustina Kaneshie.
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Dear Faustina,
I’m sorry about the situation you are going through and it’s my deepest regret that this is happening to you.
First of all, children are gifts from God and therefore not from man. Man is only the passage way for the gifts of God to be seen physically and that is children. Be more prayerful and trust God to see you through these difficult times.
Don’t allow your husband to bring or marry a second wife. Marrying a second wife will still not solve your problem. Tell him that you are not happy about the idea of him marrying another woman.
Remind him of the promise he made to you through the exchange of vows that he wasn’t going to leave you through difficult times. This issue is an example of one of the difficult times therefore both of you should be backing it up with prayers and you would sail through.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
