Obaa Yaa
My sister is pregnant for a married man
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My younger sister, 26, is two months pregnant for a married man. The man is rich and responsible and can take care of my sister and the child but he is, at the same time, a close family friend who our parents respect so much.
My confused sister has told me she wants to keep the pregnancy but the man wants her to abort it. I am equally disturbed because our parents must not discover that my sister is pregnant for our family friend else hell would break loose.
Again, the married man responsible for the pregnancy says his family will fall apart if the truth is told. My sister has sought my advice on this but I do not know what to tell her. Please help me to advise her.
Mavis,
Dodowa.
Dear Mavis,
This appears to be tough but it can be resolved amicably. But first of all, abortion should not be an option. An innocent soul has nothing to do with an illicit affair between two adults. Your sister should keep the baby and gather the courage to tell your parents what has happened.
There would be initial resentment from your parents but this it would eventually fade away. The married man is only finding an excuse to make your sister abort the baby but she must not allow that to happen.
The ‘family friend’ should be ready to face the consequences of his actions. Perhaps he may convince his wife to allow him marry your sister as a second woman.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
