Obaa Yaa
She must leave my house
Dear Obaa Yaa,
When l was successfully delivered of my son, my husband and l saw the need to look for a house help to assist in the performance of the domestic chores to relieve me of the workload at home.
l understood him because the decision was taken in my interest and to provide me with some time to rest when less busy.
When the house help finally settled down in the house, she started wearing mini-skirts, transparent dresses and sometimes partially exposing her breast through her dress.
I did not hesitate to draw her attention to the fact that l was against her dressing so she must change.
Though l have served her this notice, she has refused to comply and continue to dress the way l have cautioned her against.
This lady is the type who is capable of meddling in matters which do not concern her.
A friend of mine who met her in town a couple of times has suggested that l should expel her from the house in order to save my marriage. She said l should not blame anyone if she succeeds in snatching my husband from me.
My husband has disagreed to my suggestion that the lady should leave the house because it is difficult getting house helps these days.
What should l do?
Nancy, Ablekuma, Accra
Dear Nancy,
I would like to commend you for your vigilance and for taking pains to study the nitty-gritty of what happens in your house.
Be reminded of the saying that “actions speak louder than words.” The details you have identified and the observation of your friend all point to the danger lurking in your backyard and immediate steps must be taken to address it before it gets out of control.
You can only save your marriage by ensuring that this lady leaves your house for good. However, if you delay, you would have yourself to blame.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
