Obaa Yaa
Should I cancel the arrangement?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I met a young lady on Facebook recently. We exchanged contact and started dating. I have introduced her to my parents and have planned meeting her parents as well so we can make the necessary marriage arrangements.
We were having an online conversation about a week ago and I told her I needed to catch up with some business appointment so I would connect with her later. I tried reaching her later but I realised my number had been blocked.
She unblocked me subsequently and sent a long voice note that she was not interested in the marriage arrangements. She is a good woman with a good heart and I really love her. Should I tell my family what has happened so
Nana Kwame
Dear Nana Kwame,
Telling her you were going offline to attend a business meeting should not have incurred her ‘wrath’. There may be some other underlining factors why your girlfriend reacted the way she did. Try talking to her and resolve any issues there maybe. But if there is no problem at all and your girlfriend has only decided to be that rude towards you, then she may not be ready for marriage. Your family would understand when you decide not to go ahead with the marriage arrangement. If all avenues to get her back fail, letting her go could be the better option.
Obaa Yaa
He squats like a girl to urinate
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a single parent trying to raise my three children – two girls and a boy aged six, five and two.
I am not worried about money to take care for them because I am gainfully employed. The problem is that my little boy has not been urinating in the manner males do.
He has been squatting like how females do. I don’t know how to teach him since he does not allow me.
How do I handle such a situation?
Sandra, Sunyani.
Dear Freda,
Your boy is simply imitating his sisters and he is used to squatting while urinating.
This is not an issue you should be worried about. Continue to educate him that boys don’t squat; rather they stand and urinate.
When he grows up and sees his peers standing up to urinate, he’d learn to do the same.
Don’t get worried. Little kids change over time.
Obaa Yaa
Is he cheating on me?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been together for six years now. Recently when he came from town I asked him for money to buy something.
He directed me to bring the trousers but he later changed his mind and reached for the trousers himself.
Interestingly, I got the trousers first and when I removed his wallet, it came out together with a condom.
I asked him what he was doing with the condom because we don’t use it at home.
He told me to stop worrying him about it and never answered the question.
Esi Atta,
Krobo.
Dear Esi,
I AM afraid your husband might be cheating on you, but be thankful that he always has a condom in hand.
Try and discuss your fears with him and give him more attention.
Maybe he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and wants to go a bit extra-marital.
I hope you would not be too pissed off though. Take it cool, discuss the problem, and I believe that once he has been exposed, he would take steps to change.
But as I stated earlier, be thankful that he is a fan of condoms.
