Obaa Yaa
Should I cancel the arrangement?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I met a young lady on Facebook recently. We exchanged contact and started dating. I have introduced her to my parents and have planned meeting her parents as well so we can make the necessary marriage arrangements.
We were having an online conversation about a week ago and I told her I needed to catch up with some business appointment so I would connect with her later. I tried reaching her later but I realised my number had been blocked.
She unblocked me subsequently and sent a long voice note that she was not interested in the marriage arrangements. She is a good woman with a good heart and I really love her. Should I tell my family what has happened so
Nana Kwame
Dear Nana Kwame,
Telling her you were going offline to attend a business meeting should not have incurred her ‘wrath’. There may be some other underlining factors why your girlfriend reacted the way she did. Try talking to her and resolve any issues there maybe. But if there is no problem at all and your girlfriend has only decided to be that rude towards you, then she may not be ready for marriage. Your family would understand when you decide not to go ahead with the marriage arrangement. If all avenues to get her back fail, letting her go could be the better option.
Obaa Yaa
She says the girl is not my child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Amos, I am not married but have one child who I cater for. Just recently when I sent my child weekly money for her upkeep, her mother asked me not to bother.
She said that the child was not mine and that she was prepared to pay for everything I have spent on them.
Obaa Yaa, life around me now is hell. I can’t come to terms with what she is telling me after taking care of my child for six years.
Obaa Yaa, what can make a woman behave like this? What should do?
Amos,
Kwahu.
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Dear Amos,
I am really sorry for you. However, it is good that this woman is saying something you have not investigated and know for certainty if the child is yours or not. That will keep your mind at rest.
Take a lawyer and send the matter to court. The court will most certainly order a paternity test where you can know your stand as to the parentage of this girl.
If she is yours, you can take legal steps to claim her from the dishonest mother. If it is proved that she is not your child, then you can make your lawyer prepare a bill for the woman to reimburse you for all you have spent on the child.
Obaa Yaa
I am barren, my husband has impregnated girl, 18
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 40 years old married for 10 years. I have been to so many hospitals in the country, herbalists and even to spiritualists for a help in child bearing, but to no avail.
My problem now is that, I have just been hinted that my husband has impregnated an 18- year old girl.
He does everything for her. Even though he has not neglected me, I am very hurt, and what can I do?
Akua,
Koforidua.
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Dear Akua,
IT is always good for everybody to investigate what he or she hears before whole-heartedly accepting it as a gospel truth.
Most rumours are peddled about people but they turn out to be false.
Anyhow, let your husband know, what you have heard and let him react to it. You may found out that it is a different story altogether.
However, if it turns out to be true, then it means your husband has not lived up to his marriage vows, and depending on what your religious principles and emotions are, you might advise yourself.
Another option is to stick to your husband and continue seeking a child of your own.
Don’t get stressed out though, take it cool and seek diligently for yours. One day, you will have the last laugh.
