Obaa Yaa
Should I leave my uncle?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I HAVE been working with my uncle for the past two years in his shop without pay, even though he has promised to pay me a monthly salary.
A friend of his offered me employment in his shop and the remuneration is very attractive which I have accepted.
Am I being ungrateful for accepting the job and how do I break this news to my uncle.
Eva
Accra, Ghana
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Dear Eva,
I SUGGEST you give him another chance by reminding him politely about your monthly stipend.
On the other hand, he might have forgotten and maybe have invested it into something lucrative for you.
Kindly tell your friend to hold on with the job offer and speak to your uncle about any decision you want to take.
It would also be ideal if you speak to your parents to talk to your uncle on your behalf.
If he agrees to pay you, then let him know that you wish to accept an employment elsewhere.
Obaa Yaa
He squats like a girl to urinate
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a single parent trying to raise my three children – two girls and a boy aged six, five and two.
I am not worried about money to take care for them because I am gainfully employed. The problem is that my little boy has not been urinating in the manner males do.
He has been squatting like how females do. I don’t know how to teach him since he does not allow me.
How do I handle such a situation?
Sandra, Sunyani.
Dear Freda,
Your boy is simply imitating his sisters and he is used to squatting while urinating.
This is not an issue you should be worried about. Continue to educate him that boys don’t squat; rather they stand and urinate.
When he grows up and sees his peers standing up to urinate, he’d learn to do the same.
Don’t get worried. Little kids change over time.
Obaa Yaa
Is he cheating on me?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been together for six years now. Recently when he came from town I asked him for money to buy something.
He directed me to bring the trousers but he later changed his mind and reached for the trousers himself.
Interestingly, I got the trousers first and when I removed his wallet, it came out together with a condom.
I asked him what he was doing with the condom because we don’t use it at home.
He told me to stop worrying him about it and never answered the question.
Esi Atta,
Krobo.
Dear Esi,
I AM afraid your husband might be cheating on you, but be thankful that he always has a condom in hand.
Try and discuss your fears with him and give him more attention.
Maybe he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and wants to go a bit extra-marital.
I hope you would not be too pissed off though. Take it cool, discuss the problem, and I believe that once he has been exposed, he would take steps to change.
But as I stated earlier, be thankful that he is a fan of condoms.
