Obaa Yaa
Should I take this initiative?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Life they say is full of uncertainties and one may not know where his or her help may come from that is the ultimate goal of why people befriend others. I hope Obaa Yaa helps me in terms of my decisions about relationship issues. I am currently a lost ball in the weeds and do not know what to do at the moment.
There is this girl I have befriended for months now and gradually I am head over heels for her but I do not know how to go about it nor do I want to upset my applecart. Should I go ahead and articulate my thoughts to her or we should be just friends because I am of the view that she may even end up befriending me should I let her know my thoughts, what should I do?
Yaw Baah, Koforidua, Eastern Region.
Dear Yaw
I am delighted that you reached out to Obaa Yaa with your problems. Honestly I understand how you feel, but my advice is that you are tactful in handling this issue. Every good love story has a unique start and while you do not want to stall your friendship with the lady by asking her out now, waiting too long to express your feelings to her too may be late. If you’ve built a good friendship and she seems ready for a quality relationship, express your love for her, for all you know she may be interested!
Good luck and if she accepts, kindly make her happy.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
