Obaa Yaa
Should l take her back?
Should l take her back?
We had enjoyed a wonderful relationship with the blessings of our parents including our friends.
They described our union as an unbreakable bond of friendship which became the envy of many people.
As our love for each other grew over time, we had the blessings of our parents to marry.
Feverish preparations were made and we were looking forward to a memorable traditional marriage to be followed by a grand wedding ceremony.
However, a few months to the scheduled date, l realised my fiancé’s character had changed to my surprise.
Upon persistent pressure mounted on her to find out the reason behind her attitude, she was bold to tell me that someone else had proposed to her and she would marry him instead of me.
Having considered several factors and upon fervent prayers, l gave in to her decision and she went ahead to marry the man of her choice.
Though downhearted, l was able to pick up the pieces and settled down to marry another lady with an impeccable character.
Four years down the lane, one day my old fiancé called my phone for a lengthy discussion and she later followed up with many visits to my office.
To be brief, her marriage is now on the rocks and she is pleading that though l am married, l should take her as a second wife.
She visits me often, trying to woe me back but l am not moved since l am now married. I have decided to consider her as a family friend, and nothing more to that.
Kodzo, Accra.
Dear Kodzo,
I respect you for the high level of resilience you have put up in the midst of such a challenging experience.
Though others could have been swept off their feet to do the contrary, you persisted and gracefully succeeded with ease.
You have done the right thing by not neglecting her totally. You have also done well by accepting her as a family friend and nothing more to that.
Having taken this decision, make sure you go by it and do not allow yourself to be swayed by the relentless efforts of this old lover of yours who is capable of going to all lengths to win your love back.
Know your limitations and stick to your principles to remain unperturbed.
Obaa Yaa
What subjects should I choose?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I took part in General Certificate Examination, Ordinary Level (‘O’ level ), and passed in five subjects including English language 6, Modern Mathematics 5, Commerce 3, Business Management 5, and Accounting 6.
With Economics, I had 8. Due to economic constraints it would be impossible for me to attempt the economics again.
What I need from you is an advice as to which subjects I should take at the Advance level so as to go to the University.
I would also like to know the type of career I should take at the University.
A.J, Accra.
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Dear A.J
If you want to go to the Sixth form, then you would have to avoid all the subjects except the Commerce and Business Management. But since you are talking of financial constraints, you will have to look for a job and later register for part-time studies in order to take the exams.
That will not be easy but with determination, you can do it.
The career you choose finally should depend on what subjects you do best.
Obaa Yaa
I’m having second thoughts
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My man and I are planning a wedding which will take place within the next few months. It will be preceded by an engagement.
But I am beginning to have second thoughts because I suspect that my man was hiding some negative things about his character.
For instance, I visited him at his office unexpectedly, and he was exchanging profanities with another worker.
At another time, he was chasing a female worker around the office and everyone was laughing. But he is a very polite man when we are alone.
Which one do you think is his true character?
It is very important for me because I don’t want to marry a joker.
A.B, Sewhi
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Dear A.B
I don’t think you love this man at all, otherwise you will not be having second thoughts about his other side.
If you are for him, tell him how you felt on the occasions that you went to his office. Don’t make an issue out of it; let him know how much it affected you.
If he cares for you, he will do something about it.
But it might interest you to know that the behaviour of people differs when at home and at work places
