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Should we give up on our childlessness?

Dear ObaaYaa,

Our marriage which had received the consent of both families started on a good note which made us to be happy and excited. We were filled with optimism that things would be well after our honeymoon to enable us to enjoy life to its fullest.

Unfortunately, after two years of marriage, we discovered that the much sought-after pregnancy was not forthcoming. Initially, we presumed the delay could be as a result of anxiety and urging from families and friends.

During my wife’s first visit to the hospital, the doctor told her to relax since it was not too late for her to conceive. However, having waited till the seventh year, our patience was beginning to run out and frustration set in.

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Several checks conducted at the hospital on both of us have proved that we were capable of giving birth, but it was inexplicable why the delay had persisted all these years.

Having waited almost 10 years in great expectation, we are beginning to throw our hands in despair and see how nature will treat us.

Within this stressful period, l had calls from relatives, friends and associates about the need to marry another woman in order to raise children for the family. In the same vein my wife also had many promptings and pieces of advice from those close to her.

I must indicate that my wife has taken different medications prescribed by different doctors but all to no avail.

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As humans, the more we hear such promptings or urgings, the more disturbed we become and this is affecting our trust in God.

We are currently confused and not sure of what to do with our lives as a couple.

Daniel-Accra.

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Dear Daniel,

Some couples have serious challenges in their marriages and it takes those who are prayerful, dedicated and spirit-filled to go through trials and difficulties and still remain united.

You ought to be commended for defying the urging from others butstanding by each other in these difficult times and hoping against hope.

The point must be made that you are not in this trouble alone since many are also facing similar problems in their marriages, but still moving along.

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Having come this far, it is likely your doctor will prescribe other medications to help solve your problem. What you ought to do is to stick to the prescription of the doctor and you will be successful.

You can overcome your problem because l know of a couple who had stayed more than 10 years before the first pregnancy, and this was followed by two others in succession.

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Obaa Yaa

Under pressure from family to marry

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.

It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.

Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.

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Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.

Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?

Akwasi.

Dear Akwasi,

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MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.

You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.

No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.

Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.

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Obaa Yaa

He forcibly kissed me

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.

Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.

He is very kind, lovely, faith­ful, caring, humble and God-fear­ing.

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We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.

One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forci­bly kissed me.

Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.

Should I go on with this rela­tionship?

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Annora, Sunyani.

Dear Anora,

YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.

Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.

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He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship be­cause of the incident that hap­pened.

If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.

If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.

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