Obaa Yaa
Signals are worrying
Dear ObaaYaa,
We have been lovers for five years and hopeful that things will improve to enable us to be married. Our relationship has passed through memorable and rough times, yet we have managed to sustain it till now.
Now that we have planned to marry, certain unpleasant developments are showing up their ugly heads which give me cause to worry.
There are reports from reliable sources that my lady had a child with a classmate but has refused to disclose this information to me despite repeated appeals to her to tell me the truth.
After this report, l have received confirmation from another person which has now given me a free mind to make a definite decision to end the relationship for good.
It is my view thatsince she has not been faithful to me from the beginning, nothing will convince me that she will change her character when we are married.
Once l have made this decision, I will not stop from carrying it out.
Kwabena-Kasoa,
Dear Kwabena,
Though you have decided to end the relationship, I will urge you not to rely solely on the information received from these two sources, because it is possible the first person who made the disclosure to you could influence the second person to narrate the same story to serve as a confirmation of the earlier one.
What you have to do is to take your time to investigate and avoid making hasty decisions at this crucial time. It will not be out of place to reveal the detailed information you have received about her past life.
It is, indeed, true that as you prepare to marry, you should eliminate all bottlenecks in your relationship and straighten your path.
Obaa Yaa
What subjects should I choose?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I took part in General Certificate Examination, Ordinary Level (‘O’ level ), and passed in five subjects including English language 6, Modern Mathematics 5, Commerce 3, Business Management 5, and Accounting 6.
With Economics, I had 8. Due to economic constraints it would be impossible for me to attempt the economics again.
What I need from you is an advice as to which subjects I should take at the Advance level so as to go to the University.
I would also like to know the type of career I should take at the University.
A.J, Accra.
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Dear A.J
If you want to go to the Sixth form, then you would have to avoid all the subjects except the Commerce and Business Management. But since you are talking of financial constraints, you will have to look for a job and later register for part-time studies in order to take the exams.
That will not be easy but with determination, you can do it.
The career you choose finally should depend on what subjects you do best.
Obaa Yaa
I’m having second thoughts
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My man and I are planning a wedding which will take place within the next few months. It will be preceded by an engagement.
But I am beginning to have second thoughts because I suspect that my man was hiding some negative things about his character.
For instance, I visited him at his office unexpectedly, and he was exchanging profanities with another worker.
At another time, he was chasing a female worker around the office and everyone was laughing. But he is a very polite man when we are alone.
Which one do you think is his true character?
It is very important for me because I don’t want to marry a joker.
A.B, Sewhi
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Dear A.B
I don’t think you love this man at all, otherwise you will not be having second thoughts about his other side.
If you are for him, tell him how you felt on the occasions that you went to his office. Don’t make an issue out of it; let him know how much it affected you.
If he cares for you, he will do something about it.
But it might interest you to know that the behaviour of people differs when at home and at work places
