Obaa Yaa
They have a secret relationship
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A friend of mine introduced me to a young man few months ago. I accepted his proposal and we have dated for three years. But I discovered recently that my new boyfriend had dated my friend in the past.
They both tell me they are “just friends” but I notice they express their feelings towards each other during phone conversations. I have seen text messages to prove they have an affair.
My friend denied when I confronted her and insisted they are “just friends.” When I asked my fiance he got upset that I had read messages on his phone, but did not deny the secret relationship with my friend.
He told me if I wanted to maintain the relationship, I should not talk about the other lady. It appears I have been living in a fool’s paradise. I am gradually losing hope in him. I don’t know what to do.
Mavis, Taifa.
Dear Mavis,
Sometimes you need to let go of what you love so much if your love is not replicated. As long as your boyfriend did not deny the relationship, he is likely to continue the secret relationships with your friend. Don’t ‘lose hope’. If you feel you’re the ‘third party’ in the relationship, take a break and use the break to redirect yourself.
Obaa Yaa
Dad says he won’t pay my fees
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am facing a big problem which is threatening my education and life as well.
I am in my last year in secondary school but my father is threatening to stop paying my school fees for reasons I cannot disclose.
I am appealing through you to any person or organisation to come to my rescue to help me continue with my education.
I am ready for any job, be it a driver or houseboy. I am a worried person. Please help.
Benson, Accra.
Dear Benson,
You are ready to become a houseboy or a driver in someone else’s house and must be ready to do anything for your father to change his mind.
I suggest you go down on your knees and own up for what you have done and ask for his forgiveness.
Bear in mind that times are hard, not only in this country. Most people do not even get regular meals, so if apart from food and clothes, you are lucky to be receiving secondary education, then you have to be grateful to your parents and concentrate on your studies.
If you are still keen on continuing with your education, then go and tell the whole story to an elderly person and ask him to accompany you to your father and apologise.
Obaa Yaa
Pastors take too much money from members
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.
Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?
Etornam,
Volta Region.
Dear Etornam,
It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.
Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.
Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.
But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.
