Obaa Yaa
What should I do now?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
From my perspective, I can say with conviction that finding a lover is indeed a tough one. Thinking of who to date and marry drives me nuts every day because people keep changing over time.
There is this girl in my area who I have been ‘crushing’ on for some time now. I consulted an elderly person in my area on my decision to propose love to this girl and he took me along the lines of approaching her. Everything turned out to be sailing smoothly until I got bounced.
Sadly, I said to myself not to approach her or any lady again but then I gave it a second thought.
Should I try again, maybe this time round my luck will shine or I should just forget about her and move on?
Kelvin Boakye, Osu
Dear Kelvin,
You did not mention the reason the lady in question gave when she ‘bounced’ you. In the absence of that, I would give a generic advice to you.
If her reasons are not religious or she being married or dating, you could give it a second try. There’s no harm in trying at love the second time. But that notwithstanding, you could offer to be an acquaintance and take it slowly.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
