Obaa Yaa
What step should l take?
What step should l take?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I was in a relationship with a lady for about five months and in the sixth month she suggested that we should break- up the relationship.
According to her, her elder sister had informed their parents about our friendship, hence her decision to end our friendship at that point.
I called the sister to find out why she had gone to that extent but she said she could not do such a thing against me. She went further to reveal to me certain behaviour my lady was putting up.
I did everything l could to make her come back to me but she has refused to listen to my persuasive words.
I am confused and do not know what to do at the moment. Please help me.
Dear Reuben,
We are sorry to say that per our policy, we only publish the first names of people who send letters to us and not the full names in order to conceal their identity and not to expose them to public ridicule.
Marriage is contracted between two consenting adults and that people should not be coerced into it.
In marriage situations, central factors which make marriages to work are unconditional love, forgiveness and the spirit of tolerance which make marriages to blossom.
If within these few months your fiancé cannot be truthful, then it is an indication that she does not love you and the future would be bleak.
This behaviour is to serve as a warning to you that the lady does not love you, therefore, you should not hesitate to take a different plan. Such a relationship has no future because your sister-in-law to
Obaa Yaa
She says the girl is not my child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Amos, I am not married but have one child who I cater for. Just recently when I sent my child weekly money for her upkeep, her mother asked me not to bother.
She said that the child was not mine and that she was prepared to pay for everything I have spent on them.
Obaa Yaa, life around me now is hell. I can’t come to terms with what she is telling me after taking care of my child for six years.
Obaa Yaa, what can make a woman behave like this? What should do?
Amos,
Kwahu.
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Dear Amos,
I am really sorry for you. However, it is good that this woman is saying something you have not investigated and know for certainty if the child is yours or not. That will keep your mind at rest.
Take a lawyer and send the matter to court. The court will most certainly order a paternity test where you can know your stand as to the parentage of this girl.
If she is yours, you can take legal steps to claim her from the dishonest mother. If it is proved that she is not your child, then you can make your lawyer prepare a bill for the woman to reimburse you for all you have spent on the child.
Obaa Yaa
I am barren, my husband has impregnated girl, 18
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 40 years old married for 10 years. I have been to so many hospitals in the country, herbalists and even to spiritualists for a help in child bearing, but to no avail.
My problem now is that, I have just been hinted that my husband has impregnated an 18- year old girl.
He does everything for her. Even though he has not neglected me, I am very hurt, and what can I do?
Akua,
Koforidua.
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Dear Akua,
IT is always good for everybody to investigate what he or she hears before whole-heartedly accepting it as a gospel truth.
Most rumours are peddled about people but they turn out to be false.
Anyhow, let your husband know, what you have heard and let him react to it. You may found out that it is a different story altogether.
However, if it turns out to be true, then it means your husband has not lived up to his marriage vows, and depending on what your religious principles and emotions are, you might advise yourself.
Another option is to stick to your husband and continue seeking a child of your own.
Don’t get stressed out though, take it cool and seek diligently for yours. One day, you will have the last laugh.
