Obaa Yaa
What step should l take?
What step should l take?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I was in a relationship with a lady for about five months and in the sixth month she suggested that we should break- up the relationship.
According to her, her elder sister had informed their parents about our friendship, hence her decision to end our friendship at that point.
I called the sister to find out why she had gone to that extent but she said she could not do such a thing against me. She went further to reveal to me certain behaviour my lady was putting up.
I did everything l could to make her come back to me but she has refused to listen to my persuasive words.
I am confused and do not know what to do at the moment. Please help me.
Dear Reuben,
We are sorry to say that per our policy, we only publish the first names of people who send letters to us and not the full names in order to conceal their identity and not to expose them to public ridicule.
Marriage is contracted between two consenting adults and that people should not be coerced into it.
In marriage situations, central factors which make marriages to work are unconditional love, forgiveness and the spirit of tolerance which make marriages to blossom.
If within these few months your fiancé cannot be truthful, then it is an indication that she does not love you and the future would be bleak.
This behaviour is to serve as a warning to you that the lady does not love you, therefore, you should not hesitate to take a different plan. Such a relationship has no future because your sister-in-law to
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
