Obaa Yaa
Never again in my life
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I took life easy from the beginning and things were moving on well for which reason I was happy.
I was always in the company of my friends, and we did things that pleased us and considered them as one of the best options in the world.
Nobody mattered to us and we did not hesitate to decline the pieces of advice given to us over the period.
To the best of our knowledge, we knew more than those who claimed to advise us on how best we should conduct our lives.
A few months after I had started moving with Frank, I discovered to my surprise that I was pregnant.
Since I was not prepared for pregnancy and its related problems at that time, my fervent prayer was to see my menses flow to gladen my heart, but that did not happen.
I was, therefore, compelled to carry the unwanted pregnancy and was eventually delivered of a baby boy without the support of my lover who had earlier showered loving words and a few gifts on me.
Having gone through this condition single- handedly without any support from him, what should I do?
Should I revenge in any way conceivable or should I report to the Domestic Violence and Victim Support Unit (DOVVSU)?
Maame, Accra.
Dear Maame,
You have done well by laying bare the facts in your narration.
Having read through your letter, I am tempted to say that you are your own teacher and have taken useful lesson from the problem you have gone through.
Let this be your guide through life and do not hesitate to admonish the youth whenever you get the least opportunity.
Try to contact the parents of your lover and force them to live up to their parental responsibilities. This man should not shirk his responsibilities only for the child to grow and he will come forward to claim him.
Obaa Yaa
What subjects should I choose?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I took part in General Certificate Examination, Ordinary Level (‘O’ level ), and passed in five subjects including English language 6, Modern Mathematics 5, Commerce 3, Business Management 5, and Accounting 6.
With Economics, I had 8. Due to economic constraints it would be impossible for me to attempt the economics again.
What I need from you is an advice as to which subjects I should take at the Advance level so as to go to the University.
I would also like to know the type of career I should take at the University.
A.J, Accra.
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Dear A.J
If you want to go to the Sixth form, then you would have to avoid all the subjects except the Commerce and Business Management. But since you are talking of financial constraints, you will have to look for a job and later register for part-time studies in order to take the exams.
That will not be easy but with determination, you can do it.
The career you choose finally should depend on what subjects you do best.
Obaa Yaa
I’m having second thoughts
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My man and I are planning a wedding which will take place within the next few months. It will be preceded by an engagement.
But I am beginning to have second thoughts because I suspect that my man was hiding some negative things about his character.
For instance, I visited him at his office unexpectedly, and he was exchanging profanities with another worker.
At another time, he was chasing a female worker around the office and everyone was laughing. But he is a very polite man when we are alone.
Which one do you think is his true character?
It is very important for me because I don’t want to marry a joker.
A.B, Sewhi
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Dear A.B
I don’t think you love this man at all, otherwise you will not be having second thoughts about his other side.
If you are for him, tell him how you felt on the occasions that you went to his office. Don’t make an issue out of it; let him know how much it affected you.
If he cares for you, he will do something about it.
But it might interest you to know that the behaviour of people differs when at home and at work places
