Obaa Yaa
I can’t forget the orgasms
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 42-year old married woman and I am haunted by my past. I always think about the boyfriend I had when I was 25 years old and how he turned my life around.
In fact, he showed me what it means to get an orgasm, and I will never forget the enjoyment.
We could, however, not get married because he travelled to the United States (US) leaving me behind, but I tell you for sure that I would not hesitate at all if he comes back today and asks me to have sex with him.
Since I got married, my husband has not been able to give me orgasm and anytime I complain, he ignores me and downplays all the efforts I have made to get him to up his game.
I am very much confused and afraid to do anything outside of marriage because I love my husband, but that is the only problem we have.
My worry now is how to erase him from my mind until I see him personally.
Obaa Yaa, please help me.
Becky O. S.
Accra
Dear Becky,
YOU are currently married and I will advise you to control your feelings no matter the feelings for your ex-boyfriend.
In as much as you have a thrill for your past, try to sit your husband down and discuss your sex life.
Let him know how you want it and how he should go about it to make you happy.
I think you can safely rely on the fact that time wears off memories.
You may not be able to erase the sweet memories immediately, but with time, you’ll get over it.
Meanwhile, stop fantasising about the guy and think about more useful things that would help you in life.
After all, life isn’t only about sex and orgasms.
Obaa Yaa
She says the girl is not my child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Amos, I am not married but have one child who I cater for. Just recently when I sent my child weekly money for her upkeep, her mother asked me not to bother.
She said that the child was not mine and that she was prepared to pay for everything I have spent on them.
Obaa Yaa, life around me now is hell. I can’t come to terms with what she is telling me after taking care of my child for six years.
Obaa Yaa, what can make a woman behave like this? What should do?
Amos,
Kwahu.
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Dear Amos,
I am really sorry for you. However, it is good that this woman is saying something you have not investigated and know for certainty if the child is yours or not. That will keep your mind at rest.
Take a lawyer and send the matter to court. The court will most certainly order a paternity test where you can know your stand as to the parentage of this girl.
If she is yours, you can take legal steps to claim her from the dishonest mother. If it is proved that she is not your child, then you can make your lawyer prepare a bill for the woman to reimburse you for all you have spent on the child.
Obaa Yaa
I am barren, my husband has impregnated girl, 18
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 40 years old married for 10 years. I have been to so many hospitals in the country, herbalists and even to spiritualists for a help in child bearing, but to no avail.
My problem now is that, I have just been hinted that my husband has impregnated an 18- year old girl.
He does everything for her. Even though he has not neglected me, I am very hurt, and what can I do?
Akua,
Koforidua.
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Dear Akua,
IT is always good for everybody to investigate what he or she hears before whole-heartedly accepting it as a gospel truth.
Most rumours are peddled about people but they turn out to be false.
Anyhow, let your husband know, what you have heard and let him react to it. You may found out that it is a different story altogether.
However, if it turns out to be true, then it means your husband has not lived up to his marriage vows, and depending on what your religious principles and emotions are, you might advise yourself.
Another option is to stick to your husband and continue seeking a child of your own.
Don’t get stressed out though, take it cool and seek diligently for yours. One day, you will have the last laugh.
